HOTWIFE A married woman who has the freedom in her marriage to pursue sex with men other than her husband. Her husband has full knowledge of her activities and consents to them. CUCKOLD A man who encourages his wife to sleep with other people and derives pleasure from her activities. Cuckolds exist on a spectrum between two extremes: the masochistic or submissive cuckold who enjoys humiliation, degradation and other demeaning activities at the hands of his wife and her lovers, and the alpha cuckold (for want of a better name) who does not enjoy any form of humiliation and often has a direct say in who his wife sleeps with and when. The following includes “hotwifing” as a subset of cuckold activities, with “hotwifing” and “cuckolding” (or “cuckoldry”) as interchangeable terms whenever the man’s motivations are on the alpha-cuck end of the spectrum. THE SCIENCE OF CUCKOLD AND HOTWIFE MARRIAGES As studies of human sexuality have emerged, it has become arguable that a cuckold relationship is by far the most compatible with basic human biological make up. It is straying from this evolutionarily- grounded human bonding relationship that has produced such misunderstandings and conflict between the sexes. At the base of this principle is the understanding of a woman’s need for a variety of sex partners. Women are hardwired differently than men. A woman has a dual sex drive. The first is centered on finding a mate for life to help support her and Page 1 of 54 her offspring. This is why (and when) love is such an important part of a women’s sexual desire. The second is a desire to obtain a variety of the best genetic material to produce the healthiest children. This second desire becomes stronger once a woman has secured her life mate, and grows stronger as time with him progresses. Eventually, this more powerful drive can exceed her sexual desire for her life mate. This is essentially why a woman’s sexual desire for her husband is well known to diminish over time. At the same time, it is normal for her to feel a very real increase in her sexual desire for other men. With the creation of a stable home environment in which to raise her children, there is a physiological shift toward a woman’s desire to mate with the best men available to her, for their contribution of superior and more diverse genetic material. This does not make her immoral, or mean that she no longer loves her husband. It is simply part of her basic instinctive code. Contrary to societal views, sexual differences between men and women also seem to support the cuckold relationship as one ideal for a marital relationship. Women don’t reach their sexual peak until they are in their thirties or later, while men peak by the time they are twenty. In a typical marriage, a wife is generally younger than her husband or the same age. As a result, a woman’s increasing sexual appetite, as she enjoys her peak sexual years, gives her different sexual needs than her husband. She needs more sexual encounters, longer sexual encounters and more orgasms than her spouse. Her older or same-age husband, on the other hand, sometimes lasts a shorter time before he reaches orgasm, or faces declining ability. As a marriage continues, this discrepancy in sexual needs increases, often to the point of a wife secretly finding a lover or lovers outside the marriage. Nature reinforces this physical need by providing women with the ability to experience a far greater quantity, intensity, and variety of orgasms than men. This Page 2 of 54 is nature’s way of motivating a woman to seek sexual activity with others. Women experience a diversity of orgasms, including clitoral and vaginal. Additionally, women have the ability for multiple orgasms. Besides the orgasmic pleasure derived from manual, oral and coital stimulation of the clitoris, all three of which feel distinctly different, a woman can reach a completely different sensation of pleasure and a completely different orgasm from the stimulation of her g- spot by a well-endowed man, especially one with the stamina and technique to bring her to repeated orgasms before his own ejaculation, plus the ability to recover quickly between ejaculations. A woman can also reach orgasm by proper stimulation of her nipples if she has been brought to a state of intense clitoral arousal: stimulation of her nipples and clitoris at the same time will give her a yet another unique orgasm. Her ultimate height of pleasure is found in oral or manual stimulation of her clitoris while simultaneously having her g-spot stimulated. It is telling that this is best accomplished by the use of multiple sexual partners, suggesting nature’s preference for male, female, male couplings. Finally, the pinnacle of a woman’s sexual superiority is her ability to have multiple orgasms and full body orgasmic experiences. While multiple orgasm is often assumed to be the result of efforts by the woman's partner, it is likely that this trait is actually a natural function designed to allow a woman to enjoy sex with multiple partners over a short period of time. On the other hand, men are far simpler sexually. His sex drive will simply grow stronger the longer he goes without sex, with a singular orgasm resulting. Since he needs a consenting female in order to engage in sex, his sexual desire for her is directly linked her consent. While men can get nearly the same level of satisfaction from masturbating as from a penetrative sex act with a woman, women require the participation of a capable sex partner in order to be more fully satisfied, both physically and emotionally. Page 3 of 54 There have been several clinical studies documenting positive emotional responses to the presence of semen in the vagina. The studies suggest that certain hormones contained in the seminal deposit illicit both physical and emotional changes in a woman's hormone levels. While not completely understood, these studies do support the idea that a woman's most satisfying sexual experiences result from unprotected intercourse with at least one male. Given that a married woman’s response to her own husband’s semen has become diminished, it follows that her greatest sexual and emotional satisfaction will result from sexual intercourse with other men, who ejaculate into her. One might think these conditions present arguments for an open marriage in which a wife and her husband both find sexual partners outside their marriage. But the idea of open marriage assumes the erroneous notion that men require a variety of sex partners, and that women are tolerant of their men mating with others. However, neither assumption is typical. While the evidence clearly suggests that a married woman is instinctively inclined to seek a variety of sexual partners, a man has a sexual drive that can be satisfied by a single partner. The genetic programming that drives a man is based on the thrill of pursuit, not the need for variety. Men are designed to compete. They compete in every aspect of life, not only in their workplace, but in their hobbies, for example sporting events. Most importantly though, men compete for their females. Husbands whose desire for their wives have waned can be completely reversed with the introduction of a competing male. Once a husband feels these competitive forces awaken within him, he becomes singularly focused on pleasing his wife, and seeking her approval and sexual consent. This is a simple concept that drives the cuckold relationship. A wife can use that competition to help mold a sexual relationship that proves sexually satisfying to both of them, while insuring relationship stability and her husband's fidelity all at the same time. The involvement of other men into the relationship has another benefit, other than the obvious sexual benefits to the wife and the resultant stability to the relationship. Some husbands expressed relief that their wife was being sexually satisfied by others, being relieved of the pressure to perform as her primary sex partner. The older the husband becomes, the more this motivation is mentioned. Women can rediscover a side of themselves they thought was lost, becoming more centered, calm and confident in both themselves and their marriage. Similarly, once husbands get past their initial concerns, they become calmer and more Page 4 of 54 focused on the relationship. Rather than seeking the temptation of satisfaction outside the marriage, they soon derive all their sexual needs from and through their wife and her extramarital liaisons. Cuckold or hotwife marriages can evolve into a great variety of preferences, ranging from those in which wives enjoy dating in private, to those who enjoy having sex with other men in front of her husband, and just about everything in between. BENEFITS OF CUCKOLDING In most cases, cuckolding is based on trust, intimacy and loyalty. The wife freely has sex with a variety of men while the husband remains faithful to her. Thus, he’s considered in a sexually subordinate position. Sometimes these dynamics can be quite difficult. But it still offers numerous benefits for both partners. A woman with multiple sex partners is naturally more attractive to her husband than a monogamous woman, and thus, the wife becomes hotter, more precious and more alluring to her husband. The knowledge of his wife having had sex with other men makes the husband sexually potent and energized like never before. Human biology will ensure that the husband produces more sperm in order to compete, and has better orgasms, in order to increase the chance that it is his genes which are transferred into the children of his wife. In a good marriage, the wife’s pleasure should be paramount for the husband. If the woman conceives and bears children through cuckolding, an excellent idea in the right circumstances, it can also achieve the biological & genetic purpose of passing on better genes to the progeny. A woman is able to choose men with the best genes to mate, to pass them on to her children. A woman can even have sex with many men at once in order to let the man with the best genes impregnate her. Page 5 of 54 Hotwifing or cuckolding is one of the top male fantasies, and is often the answer to many women's hidden or undiscovered desires. Potential benefits include: • Fulfillment of lifelong fantasies for one or both in the couple • Freedom for a wife to enjoy the company of the opposite sex • The husband can address and be freed from most feelings of jealousy • Increased communication and trust • Increased faithfulness and reduced thoughts of infidelity • The husband feels he has the hottest woman in the world • Women gain the confidence and freedom to express themselves • Women realize their full potential for intimacy and fantasy • Variety and new excitement is enjoyed by the couple • Physical satisfaction is better attained, especially for the wife • The husband has an increased interest in his wife's clothing and looks Many couples in hotwife or cuckold arrangements want to avoid the rut others fall into, and for variations and excitement. Here are fun ways the wife can improve the experience of cuckolding for her and her husband: • Regularly make comments to your husband about other men you find attractive and tell him what it is about them that attracts you • During sex, remind your husband you prefer larger dicks (trust me, he'll like it) • Be very open with your husband about various things your lovers do better sexually • Tell your husband whenever you have thoughts of sex with someone else • Have your husband watch and help as you prepare yourself to go out on a date • Shave or pierce your pussy and tell your husband it's for another man Page 6 of 54 • Have your husband bathe you, shave your legs and pussy, or pick out clothes, jewelry and perfume to get you ready for your dates • Get a body piercing, cut or color your hair, or do something else that alters your body. Tell your husband you did it for your lover • Buy a Hotwife ankle bracelet, and wear it any time you go out • Start wearing more sexy, revealing clothing, hose and high heels in public. Add super-short skirts, see-through blouses and new lingerie to your wardrobe. Switch to sluttier makeup and tell your husband you're doing it to attract men • Stop wearing underwear when you go out, and make sure your husband knows • Flirt more! Flirt when you're out alone. But also openly flirt with other men in front of your husband, including at bars and clubs • Put an ad on an adult website, seeking suitable men for your liaisons • Have your husband go down on you while you watch cheating-wife or cuckold porn. Tell him you wish you were the woman in the movie • Have your husband get a hotel room for you and your lover to use, then bring you the key before your date • Make your husband drive you and your lover around while you have sex in the back seat • Let your husband watch you have sex (be sure to enjoy the sex VERY much!) • Travel out of town for a weekend trip with another man • Call your husband on the phone during sex with another man and let him listen • Fuck another man in your marital bed • Perform a sex act with another man that you don't do often with your husband - like cum-swallowing, or anal intercourse. Then tell your husband what you did, or have him watch • Fuck another man while your husband is at work or out of town and let him know Page 7 of 54 • Fuck another man while your husband is in the next room, listening • Fuck another man, film it and let your husband watch it later • When your husband watches you have sex, openly express how good it feels and how much better your lover is • Find another Hotwife and start going out together to find men • Fuck one of your mutual friends • Fuck a black man (or different ethnicity than you) • Fuck a much younger man • Fuck someone rich and powerful • Fuck an older man, or an authority figure like a police officer • Tease your husband by reminding him you could get pregnant by your lover • Go to an adult video booth with your husband and let him watch you suck a cock through a glory hole •Go to an adult theater with your husband and a lover • Accompany a lover to a local swingers club as a couple • Join your lover and a friend of his in a threesome (male or female) • Let your lover bend you over his knee and spank you, with your husband watching • Let your lover tie you up in bed and use you, with your husband watching Page 8 of 54 • Have your husband pick out and pay for lingerie or a hot dress you will wear for your lover • Have phone sex with a lover, and have your husband watch as you masturbate and talk on the phone • Walk around your house naked before a date, but don’t allow your husband to have penetrative sex with you • After a date, masturbate in front of your husband while recounting all the details • Call or text your lovers in front of your husband and let him hear you say things like “you know you own it" • Fuck a lover while wearing your wedding dress • Have your husband perform oral on you after you have sex with someone else (“cleaning up his creampie”) • Compliment your lovers openly during sex, and be loud and vocal when you cum, making sure your husband hears everything • Be seen as a "couple" in public with a regular lover • Spend an entire night or weekend with a lover • Have your husband briefly perform oral sex on you as you prepare for a date, or immediately prior to departing, and make him promise to do it again the moment you return • See two different lovers on successive nights, or even on the same day • Let your lover bring over a friend of his to "share" you • Have group sex with several men • Participate in an orgy, or gangbang Page 9 of 54 • Tell certain girlfriends that you fuck other men, then tell your husband you told them everything (watch him freak out!) • Make your husband lick your clit while another man is fucking you • Send texts, pics and vids to your husband when you're with a lover One of your dates can be lingerie shopping. As much as men don’t enjoy shopping, they do when it’s for sexy outerwear and lingerie you try on for them while shopping. Yes, it would be humbling for your husband to be brought along, but also erotic for him when he reflects on it, and empowering for your boyfriend. Imagine the stares, the giggles and the jealousy as other women watch you with two men – one obviously your husband and the one you’re most flirtatious with obviously not. At first your husband can watch the foreplay, the fondling, even as far as watching you fondle your lover’s cock through his pants or directly in your hands. You can direct him to help remove items of clothing as your boyfriend wants more access to your body, or simply let your husband watch as your boyfriend strips you of all clothing. At this point, you can include your husband more by extending the foreplay you enjoy outside the bedroom; get naked for your boyfriend sooner, take foreplay well beyond petting, all while your husband is present. Once this threshold is passed, your boyfriend will be more comfortable in his position, will begin to enjoy asserting himself with you and your husband and may be the one to call your husband into the bedroom to witness him entering you and fucking you hard. Page 10 of 54 REASONS WHY CUCKOLDING CAN BE THE ULTIMATE WAY TO REIGNITE YOUR SEX LIFE Society has somewhat normalized a certain type of heterosexual relationship where a woman’s co- dependence on a man allows him to sleep around, so long as he comes home to her. The man’s behavior is often accepted because, sadly, a woman is sometimes still viewed as nothing more than a baby-making machine who’s lucky to be with the man she has, and accepts that he “needs” to sleep around because “boys will be boys”. Though it’s gained more mainstream popularity in recent years, cuckolding is an age- old practice which changes gears on this dynamic; call it eroticized betrayal, if you will. Before you jump to branding this lifestyle choice “crazy” or “weird”, step back and school yourself on the level of trust and communication required to make this type of relationship work successfully. It’s an intense bond that can spill over into other aspects of the relationship. Here are some things you should know about cuckolding before you judge. They may even spark your interest in trying it out for yourself. 1. IT’S EDUCATIONAL It’s easy to get stuck in a rut and do the same few things over and over when you’re in a long- term relationship. The benefits of cuckolding can be along the same lines as watching porn with your partner; you both might learn something new. Except instead of watching a random woman acting out a scripted scene, the man can watch the woman he loves give and receive pleasure in real time. In turn, she can also try new positions or ideas that she can later experience with her partner, or if her partner watches, he may learn different ways to turn to her on, too. 2. IT CAN BE CATHARTIC “I think it’s because I always felt a lot of rejection from girls as a young man, and even as I got older. I worry that the women I have close relationships with might leave me for other men, so acting it out in a controlled environment actually makes me feel safe”, says one male cuckold. While this may not be the healthiest approach to sexual exploration, and may even feed into one partner’s insecurities, it’s no less legitimate a way to address a man’s abandonment issues in a relationship. In this case, he’s self-aware and actually trying something. Page 11 of 54 3. IT FOSTERS NON-JUDGMENT Because cuckolding pushes the boundaries of a traditional sexual relationship, it encourages both partners to be a lot less closed off to trying new things in bed. Being open-minded in the sack can help you break out of judgement cycles; things you may think are ‘weird’, ‘gross’ or ‘too kinky’ may be things you actually end up enjoying in practice. If you and your partner give it a shot, maybe it will work for you, maybe it won’t. But can’t that be said about anything? If all else fails, you have a new experience under your belt and may be less judgmental when you hear about a new uncharted sexual territory in future. 4. IT CAN BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE “The fetish is often the man’s, not the woman’s. But that doesn’t mean cuckolding is all about him,” says Dr David J. Ley, author of Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them. “For couples who make this lifestyle work, the woman can also find excitement, fulfillment and stimulation from the sexual exploration of the taboo.” Having a partner who lets you unabashedly be yourself can be nourishing. Someone who’s fulfilled sexually will often have confidence that shows up in all types of relationships, whether it’s work, friendships, family, or their relationship with themselves. Some guys like the fact that their ‘hot wife’ is desired by other men, and some women find the fact that they’re desirable to other men extremely validating, especially in the face of warped media ideals about desirability. 5. IT LESSENS THE LIKELIHOOD OF SEXUAL FRUSTRATION For those who embrace the practice of cuckolding fully, claiming your own sexuality and being comfortable enough in your own skin to actually explore new sexual boundaries can help not only strengthen your sex life, but foster your personal growth, too. Being in touch with who you are and what you want can also help you connect with the right partner, whereas repressing common, healthy sexual urges often results in infidelity, depression, substance abuse, and more. This doesn’t necessarily mean all sexual urges are healthy, but as long as both adults are Page 12 of 54 consenting to a sexual act and nobody’s getting hurt (unless they want to…), it’s perfectly okay to diverge into new sexual exploration. As psychiatrist Dhananjay Gambhire puts it, “A person’s inability to express his or her sexual impulses in a healthy way leads to sexual absenteeism, and is known as sexual repression.” 6. IT CAN ENHANCE YOUR COMMUNICATION AS A COUPLE Quality communication is required to have a successful relationship in general, but it’s particularly important for sexually progressive couples who engage in cuckolding. With proper communication, couples can build a solid foundation for the trajectory of their relationship. And having these sometimes uncomfortable conversations about one another’s true desires often means less infidelity, because each person in the relationship feels heard and satisfied with their partner. 7. IT LETS YOU TAKE YOUR FETISH TO THE NEXT LEVEL ”Many happy cuckolds are also voyeurs, and their wives or girlfriends might be exhibitionists,” explains Dr Susan Block, author of The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure. In essence, it’s is a great way for people who are already fetishists to take their fetish to another level. For example, exhibitionists who like to be watched are often turned on by having sex while their partner watches, while people who are already sexual voyeurs may like to be in the room while their partner fucks someon else, masturbating, or just being in their natural habitat. 8. IT’S A FORM OF HEALTHY MASOCHISM If you’re into the ‘M’ part of S&M, otherwise known as masochism (taking pleasure in receiving pain), cuckolding can be a new way to experience pleasurable pain and humiliation. For some reason, society ‘needs’ men to be the dominant ones in hetero relationships, but in reality, that simply doesn’t apply all the time, and only puts more pressure on the couple. Many men actually prefer submissive roles, and that’s celebrated, rather than frowned upon, in cuckolding. For those men, it offers an erotic kind of humiliation. Page 13 of 54 9. THE WIFE CAN BLOOM Women love to be found attractive; what’s more, they love to be the woman of a strong and confident man. And by being a hotwife, she’s getting the best of both worlds - her lovers build her self-esteem because they find her highly attractive, and obviously you must be a strong and confident man to let her go out and spread her wings, so to speak. You’ll notice how she becomes more aware of herself, more sexually adventurous, and starts to take more pride in her appearance. REASONS WHY SEX WITH OTHERS IS SO GOOD FOR HOTWIVES • It feels nice. We all know it. Fucking feels fucking awesome and that it pretty much the only reason you need. It feels nice one with way with my husband, and it feels nice in a different way with other men. • It’s good exercise. And it’s cheaper than the gym! It keeps you fit, tones lots of lovely muscles and the more you do it the better endurance you have, the weirder positions you can try, and the hotter your body looks. It gets your heart going and your blood pumping too, which can only be a good thing • The possibilities are endless. There's sex with one person, two people or more people. There's sex with your husband or sex with any of the other millions of men out there. There’s missionary, doggie-style, cowgirl, reverse-cowgirl, wheelbarrow, 69ing, spooning, scissors, against a wall, on your stomach, tied up, in your car, in a tree, naked sex, dressed sex, oral sex, anal sex, natural sex, condom sex, everywhere, anywhere, sex, sex, sex to infinity. There's no limit to what you can do using your imagination! • It can be meaningless. Just a harmless exchange of releases to brighten your day. A way of making a new friend or making sure a new friend becomes a FWB. A better-than-a-wank, less-hassle-than-a-relationship FWB. And sex can be great when you’re drunk and horny and so is the other person. Or... • It can be meaningful. Something to seal with a kiss and express all of those emotions that you’ve got going on for your husband, or a way to express your friendship with a lover you have in your life • It can test you and push your boundaries. Really great sex, and kinky sex with someone who pushes you, can test your limits and make you question why you Page 14 of 54 previously found some stuff unacceptable. It can make you a more accepting person and help you to learn more about yourself. It can help you discover pleasures you didn't know existed • It provides great conversation. In an academic setting or at the pub. With strangers or friends, does anyone NOT like to talk about sex? If you're meeting someone new for the first time, talking about the sex is a natural part of that first conversation. It can help break the ice and be a conversation point • It can create art or porn. No one really knows where the line is but both are pretty good (as long as everyone’s consenting and all that jazz). It can turn you on and give you ideas and make you think and make you horny • It boosts your self-esteem. Having sex with someone can make you feel so much better about yourself. Being able to get naked in front of a stranger or a new lover and have them compliment you (with words, a hard cock or their cum) is an instant lift to anyone’s psyche. This also applies to compliments on technique as well as physique • It can take your mind off things. It’s a great distraction method, stress-reliever, procrastination technique and all round great time to be had doing anything but what you have to do in life everyday. Getting away with a lover gives me a break from my routine at home • Anyone can do it. It’s universal, a natural part of human existence and in this world of privilege and poverty it seems brilliant that there’s one thing uniting us all. And that one thing is orgasms. We all have the need for orgasms in common! • It’s different every time. Variety is the spice of life. And whether you have sex with 100 different people or the same person 100 times, it's always different. If you have lovers outside your marriage I can guarantee that it’ll never be EXACTLY the same twice even with the same person. Those different experiences is what makes it exciting • It fits into any schedule. Two horny people will always find a way to make time for sex. A quickie in the bathroom, a session in the shower, before bed, in the Page 15 of 54 middle of the night, before work, after work. Sex fits in around you and *your* needs. It’s giving like that • It’s a relationship lubricator. A lack of sex leads to friction. Sex lubricates everything and keeps the wheels humming • Practice makes perfect. The more you do it, the better it becomes CREATIVE IDEAS - BY AN EXPERIENCED BULL Over the years I have had the good fortune to live out many fantasies, some of my own creation and some were the ideas of others. Here are a few suggestions you may wish to include in your play with a couple: • Have the Hotwife suck you off in a semi-public place while the husband stands guard • Have the husband leave the room for periods of time while you are having sex with his wife • The first time you spend the night with the couple, awaken them through the night by crawling between the Hotwife’s legs and fucking her • Meet the Hotwife for a mid-day nooner, while the husband is at work • Record video of yourself and the Hotwife having sex, then send her home to her husband with it • Spend time socializing with the couple, perhaps watching a movie. But sit next to the Hotwife, kissing, teasing, groping and treating her like your wife • Have the husband lay next to his wife in bed and continuously apply liberal amounts of lube while you fuck her tits until you cum on them • Share the Hotwife with a male friend (or two) while her husband watches • Share the Hotwife with a female friend (if both are bi) while her husband watches • Go to a swing club with the couple, with you and the Hotwife being the “couple” Page 16 of 54 • Have the husband put his face inches away from his wife’s pussy while you fuck her, then tell him to masturbate to orgasm like that • Call the husband ahead of a date or a visit, and tell him to dress his wife in a certain way, or tell him to make sure her pussy is bald for you, etc. • Have the Hotwife talk to her husband while you fuck her, making sure to smile at him and tell him how much better the sex is with you • Have the husband tie his Hotwife to their bed spread eagle and blindfold her before you arrive, then fuck her hard and rough while he watches • All three of you attend an adult house party, with you and the Hotwife acting as the main couple • Arrange to take the couple to a group or orgy scene, but only you and the Hotwife play. The husband can be limited to watching and cleanup only • Have the husband lay against the headboard on the bed, with his Hotwife leaning against him or laying on him, so that he can feel the power of your thrusts while you fuck her • Have the Hotwife flash her breasts in a public or semi-public place, and do it “for you” • Have the Hotwife kneel in front of you and have her husband hold her head from behind while you fuck her mouth until you cum • Make it the husband’s role to “prepare” his wife’s pussy every time you penetrate her. Have him do this whenever you take a break or change positions, and between every fuck • Bend the wife over your knee and spank her bottom red in front of the husband • While socializing, ask the husband to get drinks and refills for you and the Hotwife. When he returns with a refill, have his wife on her knees sucking your cock • Take the Hotwife on an overnight trip out of town Page 17 of 54 • Have the husband lay next to his wife in bed, kissing her while at the same time holding one of her legs, helping spread her wide as you fuck her (even better if she cums like this) • Have the husband drive his wife to your home wearing nothing but a full-length coat. When he drops her off, tell him to return at a pre-arranged time to pick her up • After fucking her with the husband watching, have the Hotwife spread her legs for him and masturbate while she tells him how much she loved it CREAMPIES If you’re not into the cuck-hotwife lifestyle, you probably have not heard the word ‘creampie’ used in a sexual context. Basically it’s a description of a woman’s vagina after a man has ejaculated inside her. For those into this lifestyle, a creampie can be a focal point of the evening. A creampie is the considered the ultimate sign of a wife’s infidelity. To both of them, there is no better confirmation that the wife has accomplished her goal than a pussy full of semen from another man. She has allowed that man to ejaculate inside her, which is an act normally reserved for her husband, furthering the “slut wife” angle which so many cuckolds enjoy. There is also the pregnancy risk aspect, which for some has a very strong appeal. Some wives flaunt their used pussy in front of her husband after having sex, in a form of mutual teasing. This can be immediately after sex, assuming the husband is present, or it can be after returning home from a date. Eventually this almost always leads to “creampie-eating”, or oral sex, with the husband going down on his wife after she has had intercourse with the other man. There is usually a natural progression to creampie-eating in cuckold and hotwife relationships. The husband is almost always in a high state of arousal after watching his wife have sex, or if he is home alone while she’s out on a date, knowing what she is doing. The husband is strongly attracted to his wife, wanting to hear all the details about her evening, and to see, touch and smell her after her encounters. This heightens his attraction and lust for her, helping them bond. Page 18 of 54 During these re-acquaintances the husband will come in contact with other men’s sperm left on or in the wife. At some point, with the wife’s encouragement, or at the direction of the Bull, the husband will find himself at a point where he will go down on his wife. While often hesitant at first, most cuckold husbands find this to be a very pleasurable part of the evening and begin looking forward to it. The experience literally immerses them in an overdose of the senses as they see, touch, smell and taste their wife and her lover, which can be quite intoxicating. One thing to consider is that creampie eating can also have a domination angle to it, if played as a “demand” by the wife or the Bull. After sex, instructing the husband to get between his wife’s legs and “clean her up” is a way to push you (the Bull) up the pecking order, while simultaneously pushing the husband lower in the pecking order. In fact, if it’s the wife giving him direction, then he is indeed on the bottom. So you can use this as a tool for domination. In this kind of scenario, there can only be one Alpha male and that must be the Bull. Women are naturally drawn to the Alpha male. For you, the challenge is that the wife has an existing relationship and an emotional attachment with the man she has long considered to be “her” Alpha male. You need to change that. The first step already happened before you even became involved. The couple agreed to include another male. Bear in mind that there are many reasons that the wife may have agreed to this. She may have a need for more and better sex. She may have agreed to do this to “spice up” their marriage. Regardless of why the wife agreed, one undeniable fact will be on her mind – her husband was willing to take a backseat to another man, agreeing to offer the woman he loves to another man for sexual gratification. She may love her husband, but the fact that he has offered her to another man, or has been considering the superior sexual opportunities available from better lovers and better cocks, will leave her open to questioning her husband’s sexual status. As cruel as it may sound, your job is to further reduce her respect for her husband’s sexual ability, and to build her respect for you. There is a proven physiological response that all women experience when they have an orgasm. It leads to an emotional bonding with the man she is having sex with. Women derive a greater level of satisfaction from sex which results in the deposit of semen in their vagina. Semen contains dozens of hormones which are absorbed Page 19 of 54 into a woman’s body, resulting in a deeper sense of calmness and satisfaction after sex. Use this knowledge to build a stronger physical relationship with the wife. Engage in intercourse with her often, making sure she has intense, multiple orgasms. If you are engaging in bareback sex, be sure to ejaculate inside her at least once every encounter. There are few ways to better demonstrate your role as the dominant male, than to ejaculate inside the wife and then demand that her husband crawl between her outstretched legs and immerse himself in the juices of your union. Tasting and smelling the essence of his wife’s pussy after you ejaculated inside her reinforces his position as a subservient male, relegated to deriving his sexual satisfaction from your “leftovers”. For the wife, she will be unable to deny the obvious ramifications from seeing her husband submit in this manner. Consider her viewpoint. Who would she have more respect for, sexually speaking? The man who mounted and pounded her, leaving her satisfied and filled. Or the man who watched until summoned to lap the cum out of her used pussy, emptying it of the very essence she found so pleasing? The answer is obvious. When the process is complete, the wife will look to the Bull for her sexual needs, and she will be eager to be available to the Bull whenever he wishes. The way forward from here can be summed up in one word: orgasms. When someone has an orgasm it releases endorphins into their system. Endorphins create a sense of happiness and contentment, and that state of mind is subconsciously associated with the person they're with when it happens. When you feel good then you feel good about the person you're with, so make it your goal to give her orgasms when you're together. The more orgasms, and the more powerful her orgasms, the better. In fact, it's to your advantage to leave her totally spent when you have sex with her. Over time, and during the next several encounters, you can then use banter to solidify your new role in her sex life: • Make her admit she thinks about you during the day • Make her admit that she masturbates while thinking about you • Make her admit she couldn't wait to see you • Make her admit she loves fucking you • Make her admit she loves your cock Page 20 of 54 • Make her admit she loves sucking your cock • Make her admit she loves it when you cum in her mouth and down her throat • Make her admit she would rather fuck you than her husband • Make her admit she wants you to cum inside her • Make her admit that she would rather have your cum than her husband's The best wives were those who got into the whole experience. They loved the sex with me, and they also loved challenging their husband with it. They were vocal leading up to sex, vocal in bed, and vocal afterward. In other words they were involved. I read Hotwife and cuckold blogs because it's good to learn from others and get new ideas. I found a particularly interesting post from a husband who was writing to explain that his wife was hesitant to say things that she feared would be hurtful to him. After reading his post, and thinking back to some of my experiences, I believe he may be onto something. Cuckolds WANT to be teased and taunted with comments that might seem hurtful to you and I. They LIKE knowing that their wife is a slut for you They LIKE knowing that their wife wants your bigger/ better cock They LIKE feeling that they could lose sexual control of their wife because of you Help her understand that he will not be hurt by knowing that she prefers fucking you. Make her see that he wants to hear things such as you could knock her up. It's all fantasy stuff, but that doesn't make the appeal any less real. Here is a list of things that the husband said he would love to hear from his wife, promising that they would not be hurtful at all, but would be very arousing coming from his wife's own lips: • I do get much wetter for him than for you • I plan to start going to him whenever I need sex • This was your idea. You got what you wanted. Deal with it Page 21 of 54 • He can fuck me any time he wants • I love you, but he satisfies me • He stopped using condoms. I’m good with that! • You realize he could get me pregnant, don’t you? • I’m going to spend the night with him whether you like it or not • I’m still your wife, but this is his pussy • Watch how he fucks me. This is how I like it • This is the best fuck I've ever had •(During sex) Watch and learn from him •(During sex) He's already lasted ten times longer than you do •(During sex) I would do anything he says right now •(After sex) That was the best I ever had •(After sex) I don't think my pussy ever felt this good •(After sex) You never shot a load this big in me! •(After sex) I wonder if he got me pregnant That's a list of very intense things for a wife to say to her own husband. But the cuckold husband wants to hear them (and more). ANOTHER LEVEL You found that cuck couple. Now you’re enjoying the benefits of being a bull, regularly fucking another man’s wife. Everyone’s happy. Except you want more. You want to take it to another level, and push yourself up the dominance ladder while pushing him down a rung or two. One way to do that is to get him to take your cock into his mouth. It doesn’t make you gay. It makes you more of a Bull, because dominance is the essence of being the Bull. The more dominant you are over the husband, the more Page 22 of 54 submissive the wife will be to you. Women naturally gravitate toward the dominant male. If you can persuade the husband to take your cock in his mouth (even momentarily) in front of his own wife then you’ll prove to her that you’re in charge. That’s worth gold in bedroom dollars! You will learn to use the husband’s own lust to motivate him, then use sex to reward him. Also, the wife should be involved if possible. Ask her if she’s ever had any thoughts or fantasies about her husband sucking another cock. If she says yes, you’re off to a good start. Assuming she does go along, then ask her if she would like to help you. If she’s aroused enough, she will probably say yes, even if the idea shocks her. This is the best way, because your scheme will strengthen the bond between the two of you. It gives you two a common goal, and it’s now the two of you working as a team. Have him go down on her before you fuck and then have him guide your cock into her pussy using his hand. Have him 69 with her while you fuck her. Have him use his hands and some lube to get her pussy ready, and then use his hands to get your cock erect and ready. Then have him lick/ suck the tip of your cock and put it in her. Have him 69 with her while you fuck. Repeat this several times during the night (changing positions) and he will no longer resist sucking your cock. Make sure the husband is close to the action. If you normally fuck the wife alone, you will need to invite the husband to watch. Get him on the bed. Let him feel the mattress bounce and see the impact of your thrusts when you hammer his wife. He needs to smell the sex and feel connected to her. In the 69, all three of you should explode together. Afterward, he will probably pull away. That’s okay. His tongue has probably brushed the bottom of your shaft a few times and your balls have touched his face, but all in a non-threatening way. Tell him to start licking her pussy to get her ready again. Then after a few minutes push you cock against her slit and tell him to lick your cock and get it wet too. She can also suck his cock to encourage him. Then start fucking his wife, inches away Page 23 of 54 from his face. After a few minutes, pull out, push your cock toward his mouth again and tell him to taste his wife (that sounds better than suck my cock). If he’s aroused enough and gets sufficient encouragement, he should open up and take your cock in his mouth. Once that barrier has been broken, you can take it as far as you wish. I have used this technique to get totally straight cuckolds to suck on my cock regularly before I fuck their wives. It’s all about demonstrating my dominance, and I love the way that the wives react when they see that I can get their husband to do something they thought was impossible. If a woman watches me do that, then it makes her more likely to do anything I want, too. GIVE THEM WHAT SHE NEEDS A survey of couples in the Hotwife- cuckold lifestyle revealed that about 75% of them chose to explore the lifestyle in order to “spice up” their marriage. Most were married >10 years and had found their intimate lives had fallen into that proverbial rut. That’s why they reached out to you. You’re the rut-breaker. When they're together, they make love. When you’re with her, make it all about the sex. Be demanding and assertive. Be forceful with her, pull her hair, slap her ass and pound her roughly. Don’t hesitate to treat her like your slut. If she can play alone, have her over to your place and have a friend stop by unannounced. Then make her suck him off. Tie her to your bed and use her until the early hours of the morning, long after she was expected home. One night when you visit them walk in their front door, push her to her knees and have her suck you off in front of her husband. Have her flash truckers. Take her to a strip club. Take her out for a drink, screw her in the car and drop her off at home dripping wet and used. Be aggressive. Be spontaneous. Be different. Be what her husband isn’t. They expect that. Page 24 of 54 KNOCKING HER UP Got your attention, didn't I? Knocking her up. Getting her pregnant. Whatever you want to call it, one thing is certain: If you're fucking someone else's wife, it CAN happen. We dance around the subject. After all it's the couple's responsibility for birth control. So we avoid the subject, thinking it will be a total buzz kill. But guess what? I've dealt with a lot of couples in my time, and you may be wrong about that. Some couples get off on the FANTASY of it. It's the fantasy of the POSSIBILITY that it could happen. Fantasizing about getting pregnant can be HOT. Why wouldn't it? Making babies is what sex is all about. For some people the possibility of impregnation can be intensely arousing. Look at it from the wife's point of view. Her husband has become less exciting in bed. Now she's been sexually reawakened by an attractive man, and willing to do most anything to please him. She’s having sexual thoughts she hasn't had since she first got married. She is also willing to push things for her new lover and have great sex with him, including having sex during times which may coincide with her ovulation. The husband sees it much the same way. He has watched his wife become sexually awakened by another man. He has seen her do more and more with this man over time, and it turns him on. He also recognizes that his wife could end up giving this man not only her body, but perhaps even go so far as letting him give her a baby. This is not an uncommon fantasy. It's called "Pregnancy Risk Fucking". Ovulation normally is the 10th day after a Page 25 of 54 woman starts her period. But for some it can be a few days either way. When a woman is ovulating, and for a day or two before, she is the HORNIEST she will be all month. Many women will tell you that they think about sex constantly during this time, and some even stay "wet" for that day or two. It's a physiological reaction. Their body wants them to fuck. They need sperm! Now, women aren't stupid. A wife knows that she's most likely to conceive during this time. So she may insist on condom use. After all, she's thinking with her head (at first). A smart Bull sees this as a challenge and a way to get the hottest, wettest fuck possible from the wife. You make plans to see her on "the day", or the day before. When it's time for sex and she mentions a condom, you gladly place one on the nightstand. But during foreplay you drag things out to make sure that she is EXTRA aroused, taking your time to work her over completely. Soon she will be writhing beneath you. Push her thighs apart and kneel between them. Lean over and suck on her breasts. Slowly, deliberately let the tip of your hard cock bump against the opening of her pussy, allowing it to drag over her clit. Reach down and rub the tip up and down her wet slit... slowly... rhythmically… At some point she will raise her hips and take you inside. Don't speak. Let her go into a trance of pleasure as she rocks back and forth beneath you. Let her body set the pace. She knows the risk but she won’t want to to stop. Her body is responding. Her mind is no longer in charge. Enjoy the power you have over her. When the orgasms approach ask her if she wants you to cum inside. She'll say “yes". She needs you to ejaculate inside. Her body craves it. Her husband even wants you to do it. So let go and flood her fertile pussy with your sperm. She will explode when your cock does, and the condom will be sitting on the bedside table. Pregnancy risk fucking. It's hot! Page 26 of 54 NAUGHTY NIKKI’S ADVICE TO BOTH SEXES I want to start out with the caveat that these are just my opinions, pulled from my personal experiences and in talking with other women I know. I am a second generation cuckoldress, although I used to think of myself as a second generation hotwife. The advice here may be useful for swingers, hotwives, stags, subs, masters, cheaters and others but you will have to glean from it what you find useful because it has been written for and from the viewpoint of a cuckoldress and her hubby. Well what’s the difference between a hotwife and a cuckoldress? I know there are a bunch of viewpoints on this but for me it doesn’t deal with the control or power you have over your husband. It may end up that you do have these things in your marriage, but it doesn’t define the relationship as such. Instead it deals with the boundaries of your sexuality as a couple which reflects the underlying desires or anxieties. I think the following three questions highlights those sexual borders: - Are you (the wife) the only one allowed to have sex outside of your marriage? - Do you have sex with more than one or two regular lovers and are you open to finding new lovers or having a few flings? - Do you have sex without your husband’s involvement (participating, watching, listening) for at least half of your dalliances? If the answer to all three is yes, then in my mind you are a cuckoldress, and you are in a working reciprocal relationship with a cuckold. I guess if I am being honest I should also admit that I enjoy cuckolding my husband. I understand that the angst fans his flames, so I look for ways to turn the screws. Sadistic you say…maybe, bitchy… perhaps. Reserve judgement until you read my spiel. You see, for me heightening his angst provides a sexual connection with my husband on a mental level which also heightens my thrill during my Page 27 of 54 dalliances. I think many women that are naturally good at cuckolding possess this quality. However, most of the women I know in the lifestyle seem not to. For them they might like the outside sex. Or they like the idea of fulfilling their husband’s fantasy. Some women simply like the added attention. I bring this up because it is a good thing to know why YOU enjoy the lifestyle. Are you enjoying the lifestyle? If you feel disconnected from your husband or used, hopefully some of your answers can be found here. Rule 1 – Sex for women is only as good as the connection. The ingredient for great sex is always the same, regardless of who is fucking you. It seems obvious, but I guess it is not. Friends in the lifestyle and many cuckolds, stags, swingers, hotwives, goddesses and on and on (pick your identifier) … many seem to miss this. Sex by its nature is an intimate act and it requires a connection. This doesn’t mean an emotional connection worthy of starting a marriage and thus toying with ruining your own relationship. Calm down! But you need to connect with your sexual partner on a mental level to achieve great sex. Why? Well, let’s look at what drives male sexuality for a second. Of course, men love to fuck for the physical pleasure, but there is a mental/ emotional level as well. In fact, I think there are three specific main levels, although there are a few subcategories. One is domination, another is pleasuring their partner, and lastly, connecting deeply. It is easy to tell which one he is into when you're face to face and can read his body language. Just wrap your legs around him pull him in deeper and do one of the following: 1. Challenge Him - Tell him to fuck you harder/ better/ say if I wanted to make love I'd fuck hubby/ wrestle with him / grind into him like he isn't deep enough. If he likes it, then this guy likes dominating you to some degree. 2. Encourage Him - Get vocal, make lots of affirmative sounds/ tell him how good he is/ how good he makes you feel/ that he is making you cum/ roll your hips up to meet his thrusts/ hop off to feed him some pussy throughout the session, etc. If your lover gets off on this, he is a pleasure giver. 3. Sensual Connection - Heavy eye contact before, during and after/ don't let him think you are shy or bashful, if you feel yourself starting to break into a blush pull him in to kiss you, change positions, put his hands on your breasts or pussy and leave your hand on his (intertwined, this always draws their focus/ give him wet or sloppy blow jobs while looking deeply into his eyes/ during sex brush hair from his Page 28 of 54 face, don't smile just part your lips a little while exhaling then grab the back of his head and draw him into frequent and deep kisses. If your boy-toy is into this, he is a connector. If you haven’t had awesome mind-blowing sex, it is probably because you haven’t had a lover that is really into YOU and not just the sex. When you connect well it is clear that he craves YOU specifically to give him that sexual release. He can’t get enough of you. He must have you. He is taking you. You have surrendered yourself to this man who so completely need YOU! We need that connection to make it fun, feel secure…to feel desired individually and not just for having a pussy. Great bulls, ones that are used by many women, already know this, and find ways to connect. My above suggestions might feel artificial at first, but they work. Give it a shot and turn a normal guy with some great sexual features into a world class lover for you. Conversely, if you feel used, it probably stems from not having a connection with your lovers. If you feel like you have been reduced to a hole, then maybe a hole is all you have been using to experience your encounters! Most men don’t understand this connection, you are usually going to have to initiate things at this level. They often think big dicks, superman stamina, and rock-hard abs is what makes them great. Good tools, but we need more. I have often had mind blowing great sex with average sized, older men with none of those things because we connected. Just kissing my hand could make my pussy tingle. Alright, time for some tough love. Husbands… if you ask her to not do things and that stops this connection from forming then you ARE using her. There is no way to get around that, because in essence you are asking her to be a blow-up doll and not a woman. Look, slow dancing is also an intimate activity although less so. You have asked her to dance with another man, let her dance. In other words, she needs to be able to do all the things a woman normally does to dance. Her partner needs all the same access and privileges that you would have for them to slow dance well together. Alright Nikki, what are you getting at specifically here, give it to me straight. Well, he is going to have to see her naked and penetrate her. But they are also going to need to engage in foreplay, KISS, she might have to STROKE HIS EGO (which might reference you), talk dirty, dress naughty, scream, try weird positions, do a striptease, give a lap dance, in the end you never really know. Remember you are looking at things from the feminine point of view now … he Page 29 of 54 leads, we follow. What we like must be built on where he is taking us. Just a note on foreplay. Foreplay for us starts a good deal earlier than with men. I’m not just talking about eating pussy, hand jobs, blowjobs, (huh funny how it’s always a job sometimes it’s slow dancing, a glass of wine with some petting, looking at the stars while sitting in his lap. It is just getting used to a new man, and it is probably super boring for a viewer, but it greases the wheels, boys. Love is not the only off-ramp of romance. Don’t fear it. It is however a great way to make a pussy wet and put a woman at ease. Alright ladies, some tough love for you. There seems to be some “he should be lucky he even gets my pussy” mentality running around out there. OK, now you have just defined your role. If you don’t want to please your lover, then you have pre-blocked any connection from occurring. What am I saying? Well just like I told your husbands that you are also going to need to engage in foreplay, KISS, you might have to stroke his ego (which might reference hubby), talk dirty, dress naughty, scream, try weird positions. But I also mentioned give hand jobs and give BLOWJOBS. Nothing… nothing lets a man know that you want to please him more than giving him an enthusiastic blow job. This understanding, the idea that you WANT to please him, excites him and opens him up for you to try to connect. It can be done other ways, I also mentioned a striptease and lap dance. But an ENTHUSIASTIC blow job is king of the hill. Rule 2 – A cuckold’s sexuality runs through you. Most men think about sex every ten seconds, but your man thinks about YOU having sex every ten seconds. That’s right he isn’t daydreaming of bending the secretary over the desk in the next room. No, he is picturing his buddy who is staying over for the week accidentally walking in on you while you are in the shower, or your boss copping a feel, etcetera. In short, the idea of YOU wrapping your legs around another man (usually any other man in the world) is what gets him off. Why he is a cuckold is not really something you should worry about. Let me explain. I think why he is into it changes depending on which lover, your age, hubby’s stress levels, where you are in your cycle, all kinds of things. Some specific thing in the past may have given birth to the idea of it: a cheating girlfriend, porn, someone else’s flirtatious wife, but that just made him think about it for the first time. In the end why he continues into it is fluid. Page 30 of 54 However, I am trying to make another point as well. Sleeping with other men is not only a way to satisfy hubby’s sexual needs, it is also CONNECTS you on a mental level. Yep that’s right, while most men fall into the three categories above, there is another one that is specific to cuckolds. I also want to point out that men usually don’t just belong to just one of my levels of sexual mentality (dominant, pleasure giver, connector, cuckold). Often, I think cuckolds are also pleasure givers, or connectors. I have, prior to hubby, had a relationship with a cuckold who was also a dominant. For women who think they may be involved with a closet cuckold, I will had some stuff on the women’s only version. But if you suspect it, he probably is thinking about it. Rule 3 - All cuckolds are voyeurs. My mother taught me this one, although you would think by the time she did I would have already figured it out, it's so obvious. He gets off by watching, knowing, listening, not participating. He may like it occasionally but what he is really enjoying exists in his mind, and that mental sexual connection with you. He may prefer to watch (ideally where it doesn’t interfere with your lover), listen from a different room, or hold your hand while you tell him the details of an afternoon get together. Accept this, it is what he likes, honey. Unlike physical sex which uses all five senses, hubby is going to rely on sight and sound, and enjoy mostly in his imagination. Rule 4 - What you think matters. In order achieve a higher sense of sexual gratification from your dalliances, cuckolds want to know what was going through your mind. Guess what, they get off on the same things other men do, dominance, pleasure, connecting. Maybe he gets off on the idea that you are receiving more pleasure from a better lover, for example. But it isn't always you that they are connecting with! Remember, sex requires two people. Very frequently he is looking at things from your lover’s perspective. Thought by thought, question by question, moan by moan he is coloring the picture in his mind’s eye which as I said before is largely where he experiences his cuckoldry. Rule 5 – Something drives him crazy. Questions about what you think can provide information about what really drives your husband crazy. He may never think about it himself in an analytical way but he knows what he likes. Often there are themes. If you can discern what these themes are, you can rock hubby’s world. Page 31 of 54 For example, my hubby has always loved the idea of me satisfying other men. Specifically, he isn't just turned on that I am having sex or receiving pleasure but much more from knowing that his sexy, naughty wife wants to use her body to please strange cock! Since I know this is one of the things that drives his sexuality, how do I build up hubby's gratification? Well, first off there is nothing I won't do for a lover that I will do for hubby, and I make sure he knows it. It is all on the table, total giver. I do what it takes to be at the top of their list. I want them to tell hubby that I am the best, with longing in their eyes. I tell hubby that I like fulfilling fantasies. Sure, new boy-toys or pickups will be just about trying to achieve awesome sex but if I am going to stable a stallion then I am going to figure out his kinks and then he is going to work them out with me. Of course, I make sure hubby knows … often I ask him to help me choose costumes, lingerie, toys etc. Is he bigger than me? Oh yes, much larger … thick and veiny. Rule 6 - Honesty is hot! Women find confidence sexy, well cuckolds love honesty. If he asks you a question about your sexcapades my advice is simply to just tell him the truth. It's a detail that he is fitting into the picture, something that allows him to connect to it deeper. At the end of the day you don't know why. I think they often don’t even know. But lies tend to create a picture that doesn't make sense. I think the only real cheating a cuckoldress can do to her hubby in the sense of a betrayal, is not being honest. Maybe it seems humiliating or hurtful to you but guess what; knowing you are fucking someone else would already be beyond humiliating to most men. Besides, if he asks if the other guys are bigger, longer, better, maybe he just thinks you might be enjoying sex with them more than him because of those factors. In that case it wouldn’t be about humiliation but simply just about your happiness. In the end, you don’t know why. Don’t over-think it. Be honest but also help paint the picture. Rule 7 – Pussy can change the world. There are a lot of different types of sex out there, but only one can lead to pregnancy … male and female vaginal sex. Remember when you first thought about having sex, you had to consider the likelihood of pregnancy and if you were willing to accept that risk. Was a condom Page 32 of 54 good enough? Did you need the pill? No protection is bullet proof, so as women no matter what we run a chance of pregnancy when we are fertile and during the right parts of our cycle. Guess what, now you have some company. Your husband, much like you in your early years, must deal with this reality. So vaginal sex ups the ante and the angst. Guess who is going to be suddenly interested in your monthly cycle? And even if you have talked about it and would abort the pregnancy, the fact of the matter is that another man would have impregnated you, elevating him into a different very primordial social circle. Cuckolds are going to give this situation a lot more thought than you. I like to just be open about it these days, instead of him asking subtle questions or rummaging through the bathroom bin. I put stickers up on our calendar when I am ovulating. In my mind it doesn’t really change a thing if I am using protection. But cuckolds are different, and there is a different energy when hubby knows that a ripped condom, forgotten pill, accidental creampie or any endless number of scenarios that he is thinking about could seed me. Obviously, I am still going to play, since this is when I am horniest! I write down my dates on the same calendar. I love it when I see him counting back from my ovulation sticker or seeing that I am seeing someone on “O” Day. Rule 8 – Advertise your availability. You know what I mean. Ever since high school where you raised your hemline and went for a smidge more of cleavage, you have known how to catch some looks. YOU ARE AVAILABLE FOR RAVISHINGS! It is simply the truth. Even if you aren’t looking for a new lover, your cuckold will notice, and it will provide a starting point for untold scenarios running through his head. Were you wearing something slightly sheer, or short? Other men are going to notice that! Don’t do all the work, let your cuckold invent and consider all the possibilities. You just need to let him know that you are giving it opportunity. What should I wear? Look every woman hates something about her body, it’s just part of our existence. I am not saying wear something that highlights what you hate just because it is obvious. No, I am saying wear something that makes you feel confident and sexy, but also suggestive. Page 33 of 54 As your relationship grows, try to smile, flirt, compliment, touch other men. Once this comfortable for you and your husband, you should do this even if hubby isn’t there. Smiling at another man while out at dinner can make my husband’s world spin. Why? I suppose because it is a brazen first step toward seduction, and other people are around, perfect strangers that might clue in that … shhhhhh… Nikki sleeps with other men. Advertise to your husband too. I am a big believer in the Basic Instinct uncrossing legs thing. When I am available to play, so not menstruating, and in a place where I can safely pull, so not at church, work, near his family…I often don’t wear underwear. I like to let hubby know ala Sharon Stone at some public place. Hubby knows, no underwear = Nikki’s pussy is on the prowl. In fact, my commando tendencies have become so prevalent that I find myself putting a G-string in my purse only because a regular might send hubby a creampie and well the G keeps everything right…you know. The big thing here is something I frequently see discussed on the forums. Leave the ring at home, slip it on a necklace and put it around hubby’s neck. Put it on your other finger, leave it locked in your glove box but don’t advertise that you are married. Yes, to you and your husband it is a symbol of your marriage, vows, commitments on and on I get it. But to other people it says, I am not available. All of those things are necessary for a healthy marriage yes, but the ring is symbolic. Taking off the ring doesn’t prevent those things from happening, while wearing the ring does in fact prevent interested men from approaching you. Girls who complain about not being able to pull lovers always look stunned when I ask them if they were wearing their wedding ring and I can’t figure out why. Leave the cock repeller at home, girls. Rule 9 – You need a pussy count. For women who don’t like sports or don’t have a husband that is watching baseball 24-7 right now, pitchers are placed on a pitch count. This is simply a predetermined number of pitches a pitcher will throw in a game. They do this to keep their arms fresh for upcoming games, and to prevent burning out their arms (shortening their careers). Well we aren’t so worried about physical damage beyond some soreness. I am only using the analogy to suggest that you predetermine the amount of vaginal sex you tend to enjoy in a month. Page 34 of 54 This isn’t some hardcore rule that you have to stick to; just pick a rough number. Hubby doesn’t need to know what that exact number is. But it should be known to both of you that when you have sex with another man, you are having sex with him instead of hubby, not in addition to. In other words, when you play, your lover is literally taking one of hubby’s spots on your limited dance card. This is important. First, it makes the situation more tangible to the cuckold. The wife is doing many things that are uncomfortable for her and they are very real to her because they are physical. Hubby is not. Sure he is toying with societal conventions by letting his wife sleep with another man and he is feeling angst, but he is not working out, getting his hair and nails done, shaving, flirting, advertising, picking up, seducing, and being fucked by a man. There needs to be something that puts the relationship back in balance and anchors his understanding to this new commitment with something physical. Here it is, when she has sex with another man, he is giving up one of his spots. Second, it keeps us excited. I love vaginal intercourse, I must have it. By reducing it with hubby I am automatically setting myself up to be looking for it from someone else. I have a healthy sex drive, my body craves cock in me. Reducing the amount that hubby gets is like pressing the gas pedal. Third, I am in no way suggesting you need to lock up your husband’s penis. Quite the contrary. I want to be the center of my husband’s sexual universe. Women who don’t frequently make their husbands cum and then complain that they watch porn all the time are in essence saying you must make your sexual drive exactly reflect mine. Guess what, that not very realistic. Guys like sex all the time. Everyone knows this. Be the reason your man cums today! How, if I’m not having vaginal sex Page 35 of 54 with my husband? Come on, you know, and it isn’t hard. Just a little time and I know you aren’t always getting something out of it. Is that bad? Do you have to enjoy it sexually? When you play non-vaginally, pull out a vibrator if it helps to get you into it. Enjoy the fact that you are his world. So, what can you do? Hand jobs (get good at these), blowjobs, lap dances, 69, use your breasts, anal sex, queening, let him masturbate while you kiss or tell him about something you did, look up the camel toe slide sometime. I frequently camel toe him which also gives me pleasure. I also like the fact that my pussy ends up covered. At the end of the day yes he likes you fucking other men, but make sure you are still the one getting him off. Well kiddos, there you have it if you made it this far. The lifestyle according to Nikki. I hope some of it helps. TENDING TO YOUR MARITAL GARDEN While chatting with a couple of members today, I was thinking off the cuff and used an analogy that seemed to have some potential for visualizing what cuckolding is: CONSIDER MARRIAGE AS A GARDEN WHERE EACH BLOSSOM REPRESENTS THE MYRIAD THINGS THAT A COUPLE SHARES IN THEIR MARITAL LIFE: • children • family • friends • hobbies • finances • vacations • intimacy • etc. These are things that bind a couple – give them common purpose and identity and already we have quite a few blossoms in the garden, but there’s one patch where nothing grows. You both know that something should be growing there, but you can easily see it’s not there. This spot is often intimacy. Couples may be emotionally intimate, yet physically unfulfilled for one reason or more and that flower will simply not grow. The couple tends to their other flowers and tries to pretend that one little bare patch doesn’t matter, but you always know it does. Many couples believe their only option is to enjoy their garden for what it already contains and try to be content. When a husband and wife work together to overcome this bare patch of soil, by including another male to provide new seed, so to speak, the seed planted becomes a blossom both spouses tend together, a blossom that joins the other elements which bind them as a couple. Page 36 of 54 Not all flowers are perennials and as such, may require planting a new seed together every once in a while, but the true value of the flower isn’t the blossom itself, but tending to it together and having a complete garden. Though some hotwives will date concurrently, that is they maintain a stable of men they date periodically without exclusivity among them, most wives will have a preference for one, or will date one of them more frequently when able. This is the outward manifestation of the instinct to choose a male for breeding vs. choosing a male as a partner, and demonstrates the need for a wife to have a committed boyfriend. When a couple commits to the boyfriend, as a couple, the boyfriend feels more comfortable making a commitment to them. By commitments, I mean acts and practices which help form a bond and trust between the couple and their boyfriend (bull) which formally recognize each person’s role and needs within the relationship. THE WHOLE POINT OF BEING A HOTWIFE IS TO HAVE EXPERIENCES THE HUSBAND CANNOT PROVIDE. The cuckold may be quite conflicted about seeing you dressing without any panties for your bull, trimming and shaving your pussy as he prefers, knowing that you look forward to having your bull’s cock in your mouth or prepping your ass for anal sex with him, but he’s also going to be very excited by it. TAKING HIM BARE Most cuckold couples desire an experience where their boyfriend is safely able to enjoy natural and bareback coupling with the hotwife, but to get to this point requires some commitments by each side. The couple may expect that the boyfriend only date the hotwife, but, for that to be fair, the hotwife has to be available at the frequency that makes such a commitment worthwhile and realistic for her boyfriend. Before moving to inviting a boyfriend to enjoy her bare, consider testing. OVERNIGHT DATES Being supportive of such quality time together can be used as a demonstration of trust between husband and boyfriend, and between husband and wife. The husband demonstrates his trust in the boyfriend taking care of his wife’s safety and the boyfriend demonstrates that trust is well-placed. The wife demonstrates that she Page 37 of 54 can share the details of her time alone with her boyfriend afterward to prove that even when apart, the husband can and will be included in the pleasure she shares with her boyfriend. PHYSICAL ENDOWMENT MATTERS The size, shape and thickness of the male organ can be a visual and physical turn-on for women because the characteristics of a cock play an important role in a male’s mating effectiveness. First, we’ll talk about the glans – the head of the cock. The more pronounced the head is as compared to the shaft, the more effective the corona, the ridge around the rim of the cock head, will be in removing any competitor’s semen inside the female he’s mating with. Second, I’ll mention how length matters: if I plant my seed deeper than a competitor can reach, then my odds of successfully mating are higher. Third, thickness: studies have long tried to establish the purpose of female orgasm. Some theorize it aids in semen retention. Recently I read a study that suggested that female orgasm helps change the chemistry inside her, leaving it more accepting of that partner’s sperm, thereby helping the woman choose who her actual mate will be by who makes her orgasm. I’m not saying that hotwives think consciously in this manner – quite the opposite – just as the desire to play a natural, beta role is often subconscious in a husband, the rules of attraction to certain males as a hotwife are also subconscious and based on our procreative instincts. Page 38 of 54 INTERRACIAL CUCKOLDING WHITE WIFE – BIG BLACK COCK (BBC) The contrast alone between a dark lover and a white wife can be an immense thrill for both the wife and her cuckold. For some couples, the taboo of interracial sex adds a significant element to the experience while for others, taboo isn’t much of an issue. There’s no guarantee that the black suitor a wife is considering inviting inside her will have longer, thicker cock than her husband, as the stereotype of uniformly well-hung black males is mostly that – a myth, but the combination of contrast and size can provide more than just double the thrill for many couples. Interracial is a niche within the cuckolding lifestyle where the only real difference is a couple’s preference or custom of choosing black lovers or Doms. Otherwise, progression of the lifestyle extends much the same as any cuckold relationship. ‘DENIAL’ IS THE OVERT APPLICATION OF DECISIONS WHICH LIMIT OR REDEFINE A HUSBAND’S SEXUAL PRIVILEGES WITH HIS WIFE The practice of the various forms of denial can lead to increased physical and emotional intimacy for cuckold couples as well as a heightened experience for other males involved with the couple. They key isn’t just to limit the cuckold’s ability to have intercourse with his wife, but to channel that need into other forms of intimacy. DENIAL MISCONCEPTIONS 1. denial equates to being cut off completely from intercourse 2. denial requires enforced chastity 3. denial is only for cuckolds incapable of sexually pleasing their wife ATTRITION VS. DENIAL It’s not uncommon for a husband to find himself either effectively sidelined by his wife once she becomes an active hotwife, or for the husband to feel reluctant to seek sex, being aware that what they bring to the table (bed, actually) isn’t what she needs. This is more a form of attrition than denial. In order to take full advantage of the emotional and physical benefits of denial, it needs to be made official even if it’s already in practice in an unspoken manner. Page 39 of 54 AN ENJOYABLE CUCKOLDING ENVIRONMENT IS ONE WHERE EVERYONE INVOLVED RECEIVES THE MAXIMUM BENEFIT. FOR A COUPLE WITH A STEADY BULL OR DOM, THIS MEANS PRACTICING CUCKOLDING TOGETHER Here, I mainly address the wives who are already in a cuckolding relationship but do not yet include their husband directly, as well as those wives who are curious or just starting to experience men outside your marriage with your husband’s encouragement. In my view, cuckolding is most effective and enjoyable when practiced as a threesome. This means that for wives who are primarily having random hook-ups with different men or primarily meet their boyfriend away from the home are missing out on some of the best experiences in cuckolding. Many couples new to the sharing lifestyle are initially very intimidated by the idea of a semi- steady relationship with a man outside the marriage. Emotionally it’s viewed as risky, but honestly, if it’s that much of a risk, a couple shouldn’t even be thinking about doing this. The reality is that a steady guy or a small stable of reliable companions for the wife is not only less risky in terms of physical and health safety, but is much more rewarding in terms of an experience. Don’t fear intimacy with your boyfriend – it’s healthy, within limits, and adds tremendously to the experience for everyone involved. Again, be openly flirtatious and intimate with him with your husband present. It’s suggested you give your husband small tasks to perform while you entertain your man. This isn’t just to keep him busy, but to demonstrate that you are the one in control, for now, when your boyfriend is present. Have your cuckold get drinks or hang up your boyfriend’s jacket, for example. When he returns, he should find you on your boyfriend’s lap or snuggled up to him on the couch, your hands playfully stroking the bulge of your boyfriend’s cock. You will have to be a bit aggressive with an inexperienced guy as boyfriend, even an otherwise dominant one, until he becomes comfortable with the situation and gets his head around it. I know this can be a challenge for many wives unfamiliar with being the aggressor, but simply think of it as a game and force yourself a bit until it becomes a bit more natural. Page 40 of 54
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