( This is a work in progress. Updated 8.16 .23. ) "Origins Of Abuse" A Guide To Flipp ing The Script On The Invisible Reverberating Strings and Barbs Of 55 Psychological Deception s, The Deceptive Cycles and Spirals They Monger and How To Conquer Them For Yourself And The Generations Before And After You. Revealing: 1) The 55 Multi - Generational, Cultural, Psychological Deceptions That Make Up The New Funnel Shaped Spectrum of "Gotheling." (The 55 Invisible, Rev erberating Strings and Barbs) 2) The Three Malada ptive, Self - Deceptive , Self - Destructive Phases (a nd Some of Their Subcomponents ) That Are Spawned As A Result Of Undiagnosed "Gotheling." 3) The Three Golden Rules To Identifying and Conquering undiagnosed "Gotheling" For Yourself and The Generations Bef ore And After You With "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy." Alternative Titles And Descriptions : "55 Signs You're In An Imposter Relationship With Your self " ( Or replace "Yourself" with "girlfriend," "boyfriend," "husband," "wife," "partner," " church," "school," "career," "hobby," "favorite social media site" etc.) "How To Un - f*ck Your Imposter Self" ...And Then Un - f*ck Your Imposter Family, Your Imposter Friends, Your Imposter School, Your Imposter Work, Your Imposter Church, Your Imposter Ther apist, Your Imposter Attorney, Your Imposter Police Chief, Your Imposter Politicians and Everyone Else Who Is Completely F*cked Up." "I Didn't Kill Myself And So Won't You" ( Or replace "Myself" with "exgirlfriend," "exboyfriend," "exhusband," "exwife," "exparent," "exteacher," "expastor," "exbishop," "exboss," "excoworker," "exneighbor," "abuser," etc.) "Audit Your Life And Empower Yourself" (and The Generations Before and After You)" Psychologically Audit Your Familial Culture, Your Church, Your Scho ol, Your Lawyer, Your Therapist, Your Police, Your Government and Your Media. "I'm Not Mad That You "Gotheled" Me, I'm Mad That You Thought You Had To" (Replace "Gotheled" with any other word.) The " funnel of Gotheling " is like a big, ugly, rancid , colo r - changing funnel of deceiving goo with different gross , misshaped chunks in it and different gross things dangling from it all doing different things . S ome of the deceptive chunks ( cycles ) are spinning faster than the funnel itself and some of the decepti ve danglings ( spirals ) extend beyond the funnel itself. But, it's invisible ( or disguised to look like many other things. ) " F*ck That Funnel. Right? For those in Hea l th Care as it relates to Emotional Health Services (and it all should) but that have bee n selectively educated the deceptions can be "psychopathic" behavior that doesn't involve the " UG " provok ing others against the victim and/or "sociopathic" behavior that does involve the " UG " provoking others against the victim. However as you will soon d iscover, those words are just oversimplifications and those spectrums and others are far better explained with the funnel shaped spectrum of "Gotheling." For those criminologists who have waited for the curtain to be pulled back on what is in the center of "The Dark Triad , " this consumes it too. The list of 55 multi - generational, cultural deceptions of "Gotheling" is numbered in no specific order due to the spectrum of "Gotheling" being in the shape of a "funnel" (rather than a line or a box,) to facilita te identifying and understanding of them and sort of placing them. Remember that because they are part of a funnel shaped spectrum with many different cycles and spirals along the way, any of the deceptions can be an inverted, darker cycle or spiral of the others. Many are indicative of "uncharacteristic," or criminal acts being hidden somewhere along the way committed in one invisible way or another towards one invisible victim or another. Just knowing about them "cuts the strings" and begins to conquer th em in rewarding ways with "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy." The List Of The 55 Multi - Generational, Cultural Cycles and Spi rals Of The Funnel Of Gotheling 1 ) Mongering s 2 ) Veiled Confessions 3 ) Invalidating 4 ) Projecting 5 ) Virtue Signaling 6 ) Cha racter Mongering 7 ) Puppet Mongering 8 ) Appropriating 9 ) Commandeering 10 ) Lie Layering 11 ) Narrative Mongering 12 ) Fear Mongering 13 ) Guilt Mongering 14 ) Shame Mongering 15 ) Tribe Mongering 16 ) Social Control 17 ) Wedging 18 ) Helicoptering 19 ) Gatekeeping 20 ) Throttling 21) Bait ing - And - Switch ing 22 ) Baited Ghosting 23 ) Baited One - Upping 24 ) Sneaking 25 ) Stalking 26 ) Purloining 27 ) Impersonating 28 ) Pitchforking 29 ) Splicing 30 ) Blame Roping 31 ) Forced Repetition 32 ) Victim Shaming 33 ) Gag Mongering 34 ) Mong ering For Apathetic Pretending 35 ) Outro S haming 36 ) Imaginary Testing 37 ) Scoreboarding 38 ) Financial Control 39 ) Financial Mongering 40 ) Affinity Fraud 41 ) Abiotic Hijacking 42 ) Esoteric Mongering 43) Gaslighting 44 ) Stigma Stamping 45 ) Black Snowflaking 46 ) Black Framing 4 7 ) Black Mirroring 4 8 ) Selective Memory 49 ) Purple Heading 50 ) Provoking 51 ) Paddle Balling 52 ) Accident Enabling (Fatal or Non - Fatal) 53 ) Capital Crimes (& Attempted Capital Crimes) 54 ) Frankenaltruism 55 ) Frankenalchemy How The Funne l of Undiagnosed Gotheling Happens These 55 deceptions are the multi - generational, cultural mongerings and imposter s that hijack parts of the mind as a part of the mind's maladaptive response s to the invisible strings and barbs of the deceptions. Ther e are three co - dependent, metastasizing, reciprocating poisons of this deceptive funnel # 1) The 55 differ ent invisible , reverberating strings and barbs of psychological deceptions are a ttached to the victim (s) # 2) Innocent parts of the victim ' s mind are maladaptively tricked into spawn ing self - deceptive " echo chambers " (t riggers) as a result of those " reverberating" strings and barbs. # 3) To silence those " echo chambers , " victims will either pursue a form of "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy " a nd heal or out of no fault of their own or they will engage in different , self - deceptive, predictable patterns . These are part of a sub - spectrum that quickly turns into a sub - spiral going from 1) being "adaptively sustainable" to 2) being "maladaptively s ustainable" to 3) being "maladaptively unsustainable " ( a " dark dance " ) ( Conversations about this sub - spectrum being oversimplified for decades as "Confirmation Bia s" with "Cognitive Dissonance" being a "dark dance" of this sub - spectrum's sub - spiral may shed some light on this. ) Some critical "dark dances" to be aware of regardi ng children are revealed in the "D escription s " section: #7 Puppet Mongering and #51 Paddle Balling. It seems that for centuries, many bright (or dark) conversations have been started in attempts to identify (or camouflage) these three primary phases. Th is includes those conversations about the "Id, the Ego and the Super E go," " T riune Brain Theory," other "three part" theories and the " fighting, fleeing or freezing " response. (Yes, in an oversimplified way, I'm suggesting that those "three part theories " are simply the three phase funnel that is the result of previously unidentified psychological deception and that by identifying psychological deception as this guide does those "three part theories" are vaporized. (Somewhere Freud, MacLean and Jung are c heering. ) When it comes to that " fighting, fleeing or freezing " response it is im portant to remember that because of those other more prominent "three part theories , " " fighting, fleeing or freezing " seems to have been hijacked by others and frankensteined into an additional imposter. This is because without those other, more prominent "three part theories" there is a more innocent, more effective way to conquer deception and self - deception. This way is part of this brighter light and these good tremors Fo r now, I'm oversimplifying this way as " frolicking. " (Conversations about "reframing" also shed some light on this .") Another example of "frolicking" instead of " fighting, fleeing or freezing " is in the movie 2005 " King Kong " when the Ann Darrow character is taken by King Kong. When King Kong returns to his cave and places her in front of him, instead of "fighting," "fleeing" or "freezing," Darrow begins flipping the script by flopping herse lf on the ground in a silly way, dancing and juggling to make King Kong laugh . And he does. That the storytellers of this film had the innocent insight to present this scene in this way is without words and shares further insight into King Kong himself being a "hurt person hurting other people," a "victim - turned - UG ." (Somewhere writers Fran Walsh, Philippa Boyans and Peter Jackson are cheering.) W ithout these unintentionally dehumanizing "three part" theories ; without the mongerings and the different self - dece iving multi - generational, familial, local, regional , natio nal and global cultures they spawn ; without the invisible , reverberating , multi - generational, cultural strings and barbs of psychological deception; without the " echo chambers" they spawn; without the dark dances; and with the brighter light of "frolicking " and this guide, millions upon millions of " undiagnoses " and millions upon millions of " misdiagnoses " are conquered. I nstead of being exploited and recycled into darkness with contemporary mon gerings and trigger words , victims and victims - turned - abusers are rescued with the brighter light of "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy." The Inner Creator is freed from that most deceptive, most torturous, most camouflaged prison. The suffocating, heavy, false costume of layers upon layers of invisible barb scar red s car tissue is shed. The radiance of The Inner Creator shines "Gotheling" Step - By - Step #1) The victim encounters multi - generational, cultural, invisible or visible mongerings which are the entrance to the funnel of "Gotheling." Then, #2.1) Response #1: With a form of "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy" the victim transforms from being a victim into being a survivor, a teacher, an advocate and a conqueror and along the way, good non - Gotheling things happen for them and the generatio ns before and after them. Gotheling is conquered whenever the mongerings of #1 appears for them or the generations before and after them Or #2.2) Response #2: Without "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy," that "m ongering" creates "echo chambers" (t riggers) that the victim tries to silence with different "adaptively sustainable" cycles to self - deceiving "adaptively unsustainable " spirals Eventually, the victim consciously ( or unconsciously ) uses their pain to justify mongering (or hurting) others (even their own children) and transforms from bei ng a "victim" into being an U ndiagnosed " UG " somewhere in the funnel of "Gotheling" and spiraling deeper and deeper towards "The - Funnel - Of - No - Return." ("Undiagnosed UG = "UG") Then, 3) Bad Gotheling thin gs happen to the UG, the ge nerations before and after them and the others they monger , blame and shame Thi s includes one of six things happening for their victims in three different ways . Either: 3.1) Victims mistaking Gotheling for "affection" and fall ing victim to other UG's. (Then either 3.2 or 3.4) 3.2 ) Victims p rematurely d ying in any of the three different ways as a result of #50 Provoking 3.3 ) Victims p erpetuating the multi - generational, cultural cycle by engaging in Response #2.2. 3.4 ) Vi ctims d iscovering "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy" and engaging in Response #2.1. ( Role Reversal , Self - Rescue, Transformation, Heroism. ) Then, 5) Until "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy" are introduced the " UG " is in a self - deceiving, self - d estructive, invisible prison eventually resulting in real prison or death for them How "Bad Human Behavior" Was Hijacked and Became " Worse Human Behavior " As the mongering strings of those different multi - generational, familial, local, regio nal, national and global cultures are considered as parts of this ongoing conversation of "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy," it's important to remember that some of the strings were discovered, experimented with and cultivated in deceptive, dark, impo ster parts of Harvard, Stanford, Columbia University New York, Brigham Young University (BYU) and more than 80 other public and private institutions since the 1950's. Th e "Henry A. Murray" deception that begin at imposter parts of Columbia University New York and then extended through imposter parts of Harvard and "The Stanford Prison Experiment" at imposter parts of Stanford are examples. There is a long list of examples regarding "BYU" to be talked about but it's worth noting that there are other recipro cating, clandestine connections incubated through those imposter parts of Columbia University New York and elsewhere that are then reciprocated through imposter parts of BYU and upon the "Dark Dancing" masses they target. Because hijacked, imposter parts of these "universities" and many other institutions still attach the invisible strings and barbs of certain types of "mongering" to "dark dancing" students they target to this day , none of this is taught at those institutions in an effort to keep the invis ible stri ngs and barbs hidden This is why regardless of "degree," your "therapist" whether well - intending or ill - intending, doesn't know about the "mongering" parts of the funnel of "Gotheling." Regardless of " degree " this is also why your imposter "a ttorneys," "judges ," "police chiefs," "politicians" and others don't know about it either Because as once innocent victims now in these "professions" they incurred debt to one or more institution (or dark tribe) in exchange for the selective informatio n that part of that university (or dark tribe) taught them, many of them are deceived into believing that what they "paid for" was " complete " when in actuality it was designed to be very far from it. The dark dance of that limited "I paid for my educatio n and that means it's complete!" perspective is why your "therapist," "lawyer," "judge," " police chief, " "politican," "teacher," "school administrator," etc...may be reluctant to admit when they are "less than right." Or, they might have gone from being an innocent victim of Gotheling to becoming a " UG " deep in the funnel of Gotheling and without "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy" will fall victim to the part that is "The - Funnel - Of - No - Return" themselves. Remember Mark Twain's observation: "Don't let schooling get in the way of education. " Remember "learning" includes learning from what is taught and learning from what is not taught Watch for signs of UG s in imposter "institutions" using you to cater to their addiction to their own " dark dances ." This includes the possibility of a UG posing as a "professional" and depending on the "profession" exploiting you for the financial gain of themselves or their dark tribe. Watch for signs of their secret, insidious , murderous mantra that I'm going to ove rsimplify here as : "Why restore for $10 what we can poison over and over and over again for $1 , 000 then $10,000 and then $100,000 before letting it die and stealing $1,000,000's while blaming the victim and making ourselves look innocent ? " While before t his guide "Gotheling" and the tragic effects of it was present in familial, local, regional, national and global cultures, this is another a n example of how tragic and deceptive Gotheling is: That imposter parts of the "university" dependent "U.S. Civil Le gal System " have been allowed to deceptively siphon the critical " Custody, " " Collection, " " Eviction, " " Divorce " and " I mmigration " needs of vulnerable people from all walks of life to a deceptively privatized, financially driven , hijacked, Gotheling imposte r of " The Law " perpetuated by hijacked, imposter members of deceptively privatized "legal bodies" known as " State Bar Associations " *Rather than the word "Divorce" the word "Survivorship" is more appropriate because that's what it is. People shouldn't b e mongered with stigma or punished for trying. With "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy" they can pursue "SURVIVORSHIP" with short term workable plans that preserve what they accomplished together and allow each of them to thrive as "SURVIVORS" rather th an being hijacked by the imposters (who's snake - eating - its - own - tail - plan doesn't come with a "guaranteed" or "final" result anyway, no matter how much they monger victims to think it does.) About 6 years ago, i n Utah, where I've been around the block at many different altitudes more than a few times, while unknowingly and miraculously surviving the cycles and spirals of the Gotheling attacks by multiple UG s and dark tribes at the same time, I discovered that "The Utah State Bar" is one of these deceptivel y named but privatized imposters and that it is perpetuated by 10,000 members , many of whom are also imposters That's where I began identifying what I call are the "23 Invisible Daggers" that imposter members of Utah State Bar use as a dark tradecraft in imposter parts of Utah's courthouses. In Utah this includes exposed but unprosecuted extortionist and former governor Gary Herbert (exposed by Ogden's "Standard Examiner" newspaper a few years ago), current imposter member of Utah State Bar and governor Spencer Cox, imposter member of Utah State Bar and State Attorney General Sean Reyes, imposter member of Utah State Bar and Salt Lake County District Attorney Sim Gill, imposter police chiefs, imposter detectives and hundreds of imposter members of Utah St ate Bar posing as "attorneys," "commissio ners," and "judges" and others. It's likely that some of them are just cheap pawns and that they have no idea how dark this cabal really goes. (While Utah is the most horrific place for this, along the way, I've d iscovered that different "Invisible Daggers" are used by imposters posing as "attorneys," "commissioners," "judges," "police chiefs," "district attorneys," "state attorney generals," and "governors" in dozens of other states too.) To show one way where introducing "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy" to end "Gotheling" can end millions of tragedies, can prevent millions of more tragedies from happening and can allow more rewarding things to happen instead, know that in Utah and in every state in the U. S.A., " UG s " have hijacked parts of these once noble courthouses and turned them into ill reputed - suicide mongering - fortune stealing - psychologically raping whorehouses where dark tribes of treasonist, traitor UG s posing as "attorneys," "commissioners," and "judges" invisibly slam and strap poisoned masks on one deceived patriot after another while conditioning the patriot to believe those death masks are "made - in - the - U.S.A." medicine designed to help them. Every year, t his adds up to millions of innocent, vulnerable , deceived patriots in need of resolving these "civil issues" being deceptively hijacked from their former lives and robbed of fortunes. M illions upon millions of other tragedies then follow and spill over into every neighborhood, community and school. To make themselves look innocent as they poison and rob one victim after another that they disguise as their "clients," these UG s use Gotheling to "overdose" their victims with imposter versions of "The Law" hoping the victim will eventually euth anize themselves with suicide so the UG s can secretly rob larger and larger fortunes from the victim without anyone knowing and then blame it all on the victim. If the "client" somehow survives, the UG s are still able to rob fortunes in the other insidious ways that are part of "The 23 Invisible Daggers." Even if a "client" does survive after being suicide mongered, robbed and psychologically raped their lives are still never the same. Most have lost nearly everything to the whorehouse including their forme r selves, their family, their friends and their careers. The malreciprocating hijacking of these parts of the once noble "U.S. Legal System" by treasonist, traitor, poisonous - mask - toting imposters posing as "attorneys," "commissioners," "judges" and othe rs is where The American UG Horror Picture Show leaves the "private" parts of those tribalistic "universities" and peculiarly owned "law schools" and hits America's neighborhood streets like a recurring lightening rod of nightmares. As another example of how deceptive Gotheling is, i mposter politicians refuse t o acknowledge this is happening no matter how many of the deceptive death masks are hidden right in plane sight, how many lives are destroyed or how many people die from being overdosed and mongered into suicide every year because these whorehouses rob a staggering fi gure of more than $24 0 billion from America's unsuspecting neighborhoods every year. ( 60% of the "U.S. Legal Services Industry. " ) This is also the reason that year - in and year - out Utah secretly has the highest rates in the nation for suicide, child abuse , fraud and other horrors. As more politicians, police chiefs and other "officials" at every level, federal and state continue to deny this is happening or continue to refuse to take act ion, then you'll know they are an imposter too, just like what is happening in Utah. As I share in Part 5 of "Secret Not Secret," end Gotheling and you also end suicide. End Gotheling and "We The Patriots" take back control of the Nation again The "T hree Golden Rules" and Where the Metaphorical Name of "Gotheling" Comes From I've concluded (for now) that the "Golden Rule" of "Do Unto Others As You'd Have Them Do Unto You" is a little over simplified and has it's roots in a form of cultural mongering that we'll talk more about later. This is because there are actually "Three Golden R ules. " They are: 1) " People who feel special treat other people special. " (They behave as an innocent person would behave. As an aware person, as an empowered person, a s an advocate would behave.) 2 ) " People who are hurting, hurt themselves and hurt other people. " (They don't behave as an innocent person would behave. They don't behave as an aware person, as an empowered person, as an advocate would behave.) 3) "A ware ness, Intervention and Advocacy " (R ather than the shortsighted , multi - generational, cultural ideals of "turning the other cheek" which only perpetuates the cycle of more victims by enabling abusers to keep being abusers and victims turning into abuser s.) One hidden way the first two of these "Golden Rules" was shared was a round the year 1812 in a popularized version of the story of "Rapunzel" by a supernatural duo named "The Brother's Grimm" who collected and published fairytales and folklore. Since 1812 , the story of "Rapunzel" has been told in different ways including the sometimes - controversial - Disney's less - controversial version that is the animated movie " Tangled ." In the story of "Rapunzel " an imposter named " Mother Gothel" kidnaps baby Rapunz el and builds a tower of deception to lock Rapunzel up in. Then , whenever Mother Gothel needs to make sure Rapunzel is still in the tower of deception, Mother Gothel demands that Rapunzel allow her to pull on th e "strings" of Rapunzel's hair. Eventually, R apunzel "self - rescues," finds out the truth and Mother Gothel falls from the tower of deception. We don't see it in the movie, but tragically, "Mother Gothel , " like all UG s, wasn't born as "Mother Gothel." She was once a radiating, innocent child too. In her c ase though, she went from being a n innocent victim of the invisible, reverberating barbs and strings of psychological abuse to engaging in the "comforters," "false comforters," and then " dark dances " of being a UG spiraling into "The - Funnel - Of - No - Ret urn." Without "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy" s ome of Mother Gothel's dark dances became her using her pain to justify hurting others in different ways for her own temporary gain. For victims, t here are many reasons this may happen and those may include a litany of physiological aspects including how "adrenaline" and other internal substances like "cortisol" are produced and processed, "edible paint" (food dye), other chemicals in food, abuse camouflaged as cultural "norm s, " "Adverse Childhood Ex periences," "Adrenal Fatigue," "Lectin Awareness," narcotics, alcohol, deceptive logarithms and bots pleasantly disguised as "social media" and other scientific aspects "The Brothers Grimm" had no idea about back in 1812 Had Golden Rule #3 been introduce d to Mother Gothel at any time ( even after she kidnapped Rapunzel, ) Mother Gothel still could have been saved from "The - Funnel - Of - No - Return" and then be come a powerful advocate too . Instead, Mother Gothel did what she did and eventually experienced the sim ultaneous effects of the height of that tower of deception , gravity after she fell from it and the gravity stopping effects of ground. This is why rather than "turning the other cheek," victims conquering psychological abuse and physical abuse with "Awar eness, Intervention and Advocacy" for themselves and the generations before and after them and even for their abusers when the time is right is a far better solution than "turning the other cheek." As far as Rapunzel, a n example of the dark dances a vict im might do without hurting anyone but themselves is how Rapunzel kept herself distracted in that to wer of lies with the imposters and imitators that Mother Gothel selectively provided Rapunzel with . It didn't help that the "strings" of that long hair that Mother Gothel had al so hijacked and pulled on always complicated everything in more and more challenging ways for Rapunzel while she was stuck in that tower. The critical difference about Rapunzel is that she did not use the strings and barbs that Mother Gothel attached to her to as an excuse to hurt others and then become a " UG " herself like Mother Gothel did. Can you imagine that story? What if Rapunzel, consumed with self - destructive self - justification for what happened to her climbed down from the t ower and began destroying one village after another before finally being conquered by her own victims? ( It's also a miracle that Rapunzel, in defense of herself after discovering the truth, didn't get in a fight with Mother Gothel and kill Mother Gothel in self - defense only to then be imprisoned by deceived, shortsighted onlookers for murdering th e UG who kidnapped her.) I t's important to understand that like Mother Gothel, without "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy" UG 's deep in the dark dances of "The - Funnel - Of - No - Return" have no rational understanding th at their "victims" are "victims " or that they themselves started as an innocent victim. With the mountains of misinformation that generational UG s before them have infected them with, t heir co - depe ndent "addiction" to pull on the strings and barbs they attach to others is b ecause they are premeditatedly covering up the premeditated acts they've done from one victim to the next as they fall deeper and deeper into "The - Funnel - Of - No - Return." UG s enga ging in any of the different 55 abuses from one - victim - to - the - next should be regarded as having po ssibly committed far worse acts on previous victims. This includes k idnapping, fil icide (living or unborn,) attempted filicide, murder, attempted murder, fata l accident enabling, gold digging (male or female) , cons and theft. Along the way, it can be expected that s ome of the things UG s will do to make t hemselves look innocent include psychologically raping their victim by "crying wolf" about their victim in many insidious ways. This include s the UG " crying wolf " to publicly or privately gaslight or group gaslight a victim to discredit the victim; to provoke a victim to lash out in defense so the UG can blame the victim for what the UG did to the victim or to others; to provoke a victim to self - medic ate with drugs, alcohol , running away, selective misinformation or in other self - destructive ways; to provoke a victim to commit suicide as a way to silence the victim so the UG doesn't get found out; or other unima ginably insidious, premeditated acts for the UG to use to "cover their tracks." In their primitive, self - destructive, addicted state - of - mind UG s would rather have their victims die through suicide or " accident enabling " than the UG face the truth. Even i f the victims are their own children. (*When it comes to filicide of the born or unborn, it's worth suggesting that with more information, with more "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy" that would cease to be considered a solution. For innocent victims who had strings and barbs attached to them that contributed to them being involved in a filicide of the born or unborn, they must forgive themselves and accept that with "Awareness , Intervention and Advocacy" they never would have been mongered into those deceptive circumstances. As you familiarize yourself with Gotheling, perhaps it will be worth discussing if abortion has been allowed to interfere with the gift of life because Gotheling has been allowed to interfere with the gift of ourselves? ) Learn that if you feel confused, irritated, unheard, inval idated, marginalized, minimized, angered or psychologically raped y ou are