Someone I love has a terminal diagnosis To begin: honor an ancestor. Think of a person who is no longer alive who had a powerful positive impact on your life. Take a couple minutes to tell us about this person, and share the impact they had on your life. If you can, light a candle in their honor or raise a glass around the table to each person. If you could choose anyone at all to sing at your funeral or memorial service, who would it be? What would you ask them to sing? Have you assigned a health care proxy? This is someone who will make decision s for you ( or with you ) at the end of your life. Who would you choose for your health care proxy? What do you think would make them a good f o r for this role? Aside from physical pain, what are your fears about the days before you die? Do you think it is possible for a person to have a sense of well-being even if they are incurably ill? What would you want your final 30 days to look like? How about your last day? Tell us about your final hours, who is around you, are you at peace? End each dinner with a simple game called: Appreciation in the Round. This begins with someone at the table turning to the person on their left, and telling them something you admire or respect about them. They might be a person you met tonight, so you can highlight something you heard them express during your time together. This will start a chain reaction that continues around the table, each person admiring someone sitting on their left until everyone has been appreciated.