Someone I care about is currently in critical condition To begin: honor an ancestor. Think of a person who is no longer alive who had a powerful positive impact on your life. Take a couple minutes to tell us about this person, and share the impact they had on your life. If you can, light a candle in their honor or raise a glass around the table to each person. Everyone wants the best care possible, but the best care is not a one-size-fits-all model. Aside from consistent pain control, are there two or three things that would describe what the best care for you would be during the last phase of your life or while you were in a critical condition? Do you know how your loved ones want to be honored when they die? Do you know what they would like to have happen to their bodies: cremated, buried, etc? Do you know what they would like their funeral or memorial to be like? If you just discovered you only had 30 days to live... How would you feel after getting that news? How would you spend the next 30 days? What would your last day and last hour look like? Where are you and who is around you? How are you feeling on that last day? If you had one day to say your were sorry to anyone you wanted before you died, who would be on your list? End each dinner with a simple game called: Appreciation in the Round. This begins with someone at the table turning to the person on their left, and telling them something you admire or respect about them. They might be a person you met tonight, so you can highlight something you heard them express during your time together. This will start a chain reaction that continues around the table, each person admiring someone sitting on their left until everyone has been appreciated.