What is Disorgani z ed Attachment Style ? The disorganized attachment style is one of the four primary attachment patterns identified in psychology, alongside secure, anxious, and avoidant types. It is marked by conflicting behaviors — individuals often crave closeness and affection yet simultaneously fear emotional intimacy or rejection. This attachment style typically develops during early childhood when caregivers are inconsistent, neglectful, or frightening, creating confusion and insecurity in the child. As a result, the child grows up without a clear strategy for seeking comfort or safety, leading to mixed feelings of dependence and fear in relationships. Over time, this internal conflict may manifest as difficulty trusting others, emotional instability, or a tendency to both seek and avoid connection. Disorganized attachment can significantly impact how individuals relate to others, shaping patterns of communication, emotional regulation, and self-worth throughout life. Causes of Disorgani z ed Attachment v C hildhood exposure to neglect, abuse, or frightening caregivers. v L ack of emotional safety and stability during development. v P arents who alternate between comfort and fear-inducing behaviors. v Inconsistent emotional responses or unresolved parental trauma. Key Traits and Behaviors v Fear of rejection coupled with craving for affection. v Emotional outbursts, withdrawal, or sudden mood shifts. v Difficulty regulating emotions and maintaining trust. v Tendency to sabotage relationships or feel unworthy of love. Impact on Adult Relationships v Fearful-avoidant behavior — pushing others away when feeling vulnerable. v Difficulty forming stable, secure bonds. v Overthinking partner’s intentions or fearing abandonment. v Patterns of attraction to emotionally unavailable partners. Healing and Growth v Self-awareness and acknowledgment of past trauma. v Therapy (especially trauma-informed or attachment-based approaches). v Practicing emotional regulation and communication. v Building consistent, safe relationships that reinforce trust. The Personal Development School 405 Queen St S, Bolton, ON, Canada info@personaldevelopmentschool.com +1 (416) 554-2886 THANK YOU