"We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 1 " We Are Pianos " A guide to conquering "Mental Illness" for ourselves and for those before and after us. ( For all ages . W ith age appropriate interpretations encouraged when shared with children ) By Vox Vict oris aka "Michael Dean Jarman" (801) 278 - 7000 *This is a work - in - progress and because of that there will be grammatical errors, typos and mis - spacings. "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 2 Revealing: # 1) " The Three Golden Rules " # 2 ) A workbook guiding us in conquering more than 70 psychological abuses ( These abuse s ar e the starting point for all of humanity's challenges. They are part of a new spectrum that I have named "Gotheling." ) # 3 ) How to identify and conquer the invisible, twisted, reverberating strings of psycholog ical abuse by identifying the deceptive "e cho chambers" those strings spawn and the deceptive, " out - of - tune " performances we maladaptively engage in to try to silence those echo chambers. With this guide we can "flip - the - script" of Gotheling with the notes of this good music instead. * To skip th e list of 70 psychological abuses and go to a section with a description of where the name Gotheling comes from, that section can be found startin g around page 55 (Because this is still a "work - in - progess the actual page number moves during different st ages of "editing." ****** "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 3 *a) Terms like "Malignant Narcissism," "Covert Narcissism," "M achiavellianism," "Psychopathic" "Sociopathic" and more are better unders tood when described as "funnels of the spectrum of Gotheling." b) Those who engage in Go theling are "Un diagnosed Gothelpaths" or "UG's." c) Terms like "Depression," "Self - Harm," "Anger Issues," "Behavior Disorders ," "Eating Disorders," "Addiction" and other "Disorders" often mis - described as "Mental Illness" by mis - educated i ndividuals are b etter described as " the effects of Gotheling upon a LUV committed a gainst humanity and them by an UG." d) Instead of "Mental Illness" the ter m "Emotional Health Challenge" or "EHC " should be used instead. "Problems" are not "problems," they are also "chall enges." e) With this guide, "LUVs" become Conquerors. Three A lternative Covers and Their Titles That Should Be Included With This Guide ( Depending On It's Intended Purpose For Our Own "Self - Rescue" or As a Gift For Someone Else's "Self - Rescue" ) #1: " 7 0 Signs You're In An Abusive Relationship With Your (Fill In The Blank) " #2: "I Didn't Kill My self or My Evil ( Fill - In - The - Blank) a nd So Won't You" #3: "How To Tell If Your Therapist Is A Sociopath " ("Therapist" can b e replaced with any of those "Fill - In - The - Blank " words too.) "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 4 WELCOME Do know that the U.S.A.'s current legal system is more like an abandoned "zoo" full of primitive imposters with no real " zoo keeper " to put the locks on the animal's cages at night? Because of this, $ 100's of billions o f dollars stolen from us every year are written off and ignored as "acceptable" and "normal " In many tragedies, highly capable " empaths " are the ones paying the price . Every year, more than 50,000 empaths pay with their lives ending in suicide As thi s has happens , t his only allows the number of primates to grow and do worse and worse things in their dark corners at night This includes our prisons being filled with "empaths" who, without this guide, were provoked into reacting in " self - defense " inst ead of "self - rescue" to the invisible, Gotheling attacks against them by the primates and did something that was used to justify putting them in prison instead of stopping the primates from invisibly attacking them in the first place. Other horrors includ e that without this guide many empaths are lost to "self - medicating" in unsustainable ways everyday. Like "suicide," i n many of these tragedies, this " reaction " wasn't "sudden" and they are shortsightedly written off by the primates and others saying the y " snapped," "went crazy," "became an alcoholic" etc... It's been discovered that in an insidious twist, the primates invisibly do this to their own "clients" by deceptively "overdosing" their own "clients" with drawn out, imitations of the law secretly desi gned to be so painful that they make the "client" commit suicide to stop the pain . Because there is no real "zoo keeper" to stop the primates from doing this, the primates have taken trillions in fortunes from us over the past 90 years. "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 5 With this guide there will be less empaths going to prison, less empaths dying from suici de and less primates running r ampant and robbing fortunes by secretly perpetuating the invisible horrors and chaos of it all As this insidious deception in the U.S.A. continues to be exposed, is conquered and the "zoo" is remodeled under the guidance of this "brighter light" we can all get back to making real music instead of being deceived by the noises of primates. But that will be just part of this brighter light and you can disc over more about this at WeRxUSA.com. As I've identified all this and as I am attempting to share it in three different parts for the next iteration of " the new human being" and t he collective "new humanity" it's important that you know that t he spectrum of Gotheling isn't a "line" or a "graph " like we may have been mis - taught to believe "spectrums" are. Instead, it is in the shape of a dirty, spinning, shape changing, gooey glob of reciprocating, connected "funnels" with rotten, invisible strings shootin g out of it trying to stick their barbs into anyone they can. Each of the 70 psychological abuses that are part of the Glob of Gotheling are funnels of their own intersecting in different ways with more funnels constantly forming from those intersections The Glob of Gotheling is a rancid, hemorrhaging glob of misery. Before this guide, the "strings" were "invisible." This guide reveals that w ith it's invisible strings and barbs , t he Glob of Gotheli ng hijacks once innocent people, pulls them in and consume s them by tricking them many horrific, deceptive ways . This includes invisible, destructive and self - destructive behaviors passed on from one generation to the next or w ithin parts of certain cultures. Parts of the different cultures can be familial, local or regional. "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 6 The Glob of Goth eling is so deceptive that all Undiagnosed Gothelpaths ("UGs") in the Glob of Gotheling started as innocent people then became a "Living Undiagnosed Gothelpaths ("LUV " ) then became a "Living - Undiagnosed - Victim - Of - An - Undiagno sed - Gothelpath - Transforming - Into - An - Undiagnosed - Gothelpath," ( a "LUVOAUGTIAUG " pronounce it however you want) before becoming an "UG " deep in the Glob of Gotheling headed towards "The - Funnel - Of - No - Return." D epending on how deep in the Glob of Gotheling a n " UG " invisibly is, m any of the abuses can be indicative of criminal acts being hid den somewhere along the way and being aware of that possibility helps to better identify the other abuses rather than just writing those behaviors off as "normal" or by say ing "that's just their way " or "they mean well." Before this guide, i t's important to note that there are many examples that an "UG" can individually or collectively be a perso n, a group, a ny of those different cultures, people in different roles in a courthouse, parts of an organization, parts of a church , etc... and that in "groups" or "organizations" where there is one UG there are usually more and countl ess visible and invisible LUVs imprisoned in horrific ways by those "invisible strings" and barbs ( even LUV's among the past or present public leadership of any of those "groups." ) Horrifically, in many parts of those different Gotheling "cultures," without "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy," Gotheling can be "invisible" because it is camouflaged as "normal" for LUVs when the truth is that it's only "normal" for those Gotheling parts of those Gotheling cultures. Like the "primates" and the "zoo," w ith this guide as more LUVs survive and conquer "Gotheling , " there will be exponentially more " LUVs " and exponentially less " UGs " and the world will be a n exponentially better "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 7 place. It's simply a fact of mathematics. This is why sharing this guide in every way and the brighter light of "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy" that it brings in every way i s so important. R eady to get back to making real music and conquering the Glob of Gotheling once and for all? Let's go! "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 8 The Three Golden Rules The "Golden Rule" of "Do Unto Others As You'd Have T hem Do Unto You" seems to be s hort - sighted and have it s roots in a hijacked form of cultural mongering. This is because there are actually " Three Golden Rules " not just "One." They are: 1) "We who feel specia l treat other people special." We behave as an innocent person would behave . We behave as an aware, empowered advocate for ourselves and for others would behave. We behave as a C onqueror of abuse would behave. 2) "Hurt people hurt people. " Because of this "hurt people" don't behave as an innocent person would behave. They don't behave as an aware, empowered advocate for themselves and others would behave. They don't behave as a C onqueror of abuse would behave. (In case it didn't translate in text, another way to say this is : "People who are hurting hurt others and hurt themsel ves even more.") 3) We who feel special believe in practicing "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy" when we encounter abuse. We don't believ e in the hijacked, shortsighted idea of "fawning" or "turning the other cheek" to abuse for ourselves or others T his only enables the abuser to keep abusing instead of conquering whatever is causing the abuser to be an abuser. This is why we are not "victims" and we are not just "survivors ," WE ARE CONQUERORS OF ABUSE. "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 9 The List Of Th e 70 Psychological Abuses Of Gotheling Our instructions to becoming the "New Humanity" with this brighter light are to now simply work our way through the list of 70 abuses and to start identifying any that we've experienced As we use these tools to identify the "invisible strin gs" and barbs of the Glob of Gotheling making those horrible noises instead of that good music , a good practice is to keep some more tools handy to help us replace those strings with good strings so our "Grand Piano's" can make the music they are supposed to make instead of the horrible noises the twisted, invisible strings and barbs of the Glob of Gotheling made them make. Some of those tools are: recording interactions with a suspected UG , having others around, asking lots of questions, taking notes, the n following up and re - questioning or re - confirming what was claimed by the UG no matter how mundane it may seem because it's very likely critical details will change and this " preparing " is part of conquering abuse for ourselves and the UG. Remember, when any of the abuses are identified, tread lightly to avoid additional tragedy while plans are made to share this brighter light of "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy," especially when children are involved. As we identify the invisible , reverberating st rings of abuse, the deceptive echo chambers they spawn and the maladaptive, "out - of - tune performances" or "dark dances" we might sometimes get caught up in engaging in to try to silence those "echo chambers" we'll be conquering not just abuse but what has been shortsightedly written off for decades as "mental illness" for ourselves and the generations before and after us. "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 10 The n ames of the abuses for now are "working names" and are likely to be changed. Especially as parts of different age groups and diff erent culture's apply their own positive spin on them (and this is highly encouraged.) As these names have been compiled and because the Glob of Gotheling is a spinning, changing, rancid, gooey glob of misery, there seems to be no real "order" to put the m in but , "some" efforts have been made to do that. The "working names" for now are: 1 ) Mongering s 2 ) Veiled Confessions 3 ) Invalidating 4 ) Projecting 5 ) Virtue Signaling 6) Character Mongering 7 ) Puppet Mongering Targeting Adults 8 ) Puppet Mongering Tar geting a Child or Children 9 ) Whiplashing 10) Token Hijacking 11) Imaginary Testing 12) Financial Control 13) Profiteering 14) Mongering For Apathetic Pretending 15) Scoreboarding 16) Appropriating 17) Helicoptering 18) Stalking 19) Stalking By Proxy "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 11 20) T hunder Stealing 21) Splicing 22) Lying 23) Catfishing 24) Tag - Team Catfishing 25) Dark Avataring 26) Gaslighting 27) *Reverse Gaslighting 28) Narrative Mongering 29) Fear Mongering 30) Guilt Mongering 31) Guilt Mongering By Proxy 32) Shame Mongering 33) Vi ctim Shaming 34) Gag Mongering 35) Tribe Mongering 36) Tribe Jacking 37) Gatekeeping 38) Cocooning 39) Wedging 40) Sabotaging 41) Bribing 42) Blackmailing 43) Betraying 44 ) Baiting - And - Switching 45 ) Ghosting 46 ) Baited Ghosting 47 ) Selective Memory "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 12 48 ) One - Upping 49 ) Sneaking 50) Stealing 51) Purloining 52) Pitchforking 53) Dousing 54) Blame Roping 55) Fauxpologizing 56) Outro Shaming 57) Affinity Fraud 58) Abiotic Hijacking 59) Esoteric Mongering 60 ) Black Snowflaking 61 ) Scapegoating 62) Framing 63 ) Black Mirroring 64 ) Purple Heading 65 ) Provoking 66 ) Paddle Balling 67 ) Accident Enabling (Fatal or Non - Fatal) 68 ) Crimes and Attempted Crimes 69 ) Frankenaltruism 70 ) Frankenalchemy Their descriptions follow... 1) Mongering s - Also known as Animal Mongering, Herd Mongering, Fear Mongering, Dehumanizing , Psychological Raping, P art of " Canceling. " "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 13 "Mongerings" are those condescending "suggestions" and actions of a n UG or UG's treating the LUV or LUV 's like animals to be controlled like animals for the UG 's own purposes. For many LUVs, LUVOAUGTIAUG S and UGs, Mongerings seems to be the deceptive, twisting funnel that pulled them in to the Glob of Gotheling in the first place. There are more specific types of "mongering s " too and we'll get to them later in th e list. 2) Veiled Confessions - A darker spiral of any and all of the other abuses. Watch closely, many of the UG 's actions are actually Veiled Confessions of other abuses or crimes they've committed along the way. a) As part of Veiled Confessions, i ncreased attacks by an UG against a LUV means the UG did something else that they are trying to keep hidden. b) If an UG says they "weren't trying to hurt you" means they were whether they "knew" they were or not. 3) Invalidating - Anything that is D ehumanizing, Depersonalizing, Demeaning, Marginalizing, Minimizing, etc... It is often done by the UG to try to intentionally overwhelm, overextend or confuse the LUV to make the LUV vulnerable to the UG s control 4 ) P rojecting - This seems to happe n when an UG is " projecting " parts of a self - created, alternative identity onto a LUV so the UG can reflect it back onto themselves. a ) The UG t urning others into " mirror s " for the UG's own misguided, self - serving, dark reflections "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 14 5 ) V irtue Si gnaling - Self - Righteousness. G randstanding An inability to recognize "context." This spiral includes: a) An inability to recognize the merits of others. b) An inability to take accountability for their actions. c) The UG acting as if they are perfect , that they have done no wrong and they can do no wrong. d ) The UG acting as if the LUV is inferior to the UG no matter what the LUV achieves or how accomplished the LUV becomes. e ) The UG expressing concern for the LUV or others but never really doing anything about it. 6 ) Character Mongering - When the UG takes on a different " character " in an effort to monger the LUV to fulfill whatever purpose the UG perceives in the moment. This usually i nvolves the UG altering their demeanor, verbal cadence, tone and personality in dramatic ways. When witnessing this, feelings of it being " surreal " are a good indication "Character Mongering" is happening. With this guide and "Awareness, Intervention and Advocacy" if we are a LUV of an UG, the next time w e experience Character Mongering we can decide if we want to be spoken to in that way by a n UG or not If "not" then mimicking the UG right back to them in a humorous way is a rewarding way to notify the UG of this If you're a "Star Wars" fan imagine yo u are a Jedi conquering Darth Sidious and before you do to talk to Darth Sidious in the same "character" Darth Sidious talks to you. "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 15 In "Austin Powers: International Man of Mystery" "Scott Evil" did this when he spoke to "Dr. Evil" and it was very effect ive for Scott. Because sometimes "laughter is the best medicine" a nother lighthearted example of Character Mongering is a performance of the phenomena of what is known in some parts of some cultures in Utah as "The Primary Voice" ( used by " grown ups , " no t children) It can be found by googling " youtube the burning bosom Sister Jensen oh my heavuns ." (There are many reasons why that parody is buried under different content of similar sounding names. That's why using that specific search term in quotes is important to find that specific parody by these Conquerors of Character Mongering.) It's worth noting that the "primates" in the "zoo" try to use Character Mongering too however they are far less refined than Ian McDiarmid, Scott Green, Mike Myers or S ister Jensen (real name unknown.) 7 ) Puppet Mongering Targeting Adults - a) A n UG a ssigning a LUV a different identity. b) A ssigning the LUV a "nickname" as part of that different identity without the LUV 's consent. c) Assigning the LUV a " nickna me " based on a certain day but making the LUV believe the nickname is unique when really it's from a rotating, monthly list of names An exa mple of this can be found at FullerConsideration .com.) e ) Parts of an organization suddenly changing the organ ization's name and mongering others to use that new name instead regardless of others cultural nostalgia or cultural preferences for the former name. "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 16 8 ) Puppet Mongering Targeting a Child or Children - (Should be a First Degree Felony.) a) An UG pa rent a ssigning a child an identity the UG parent want's the child to have regardless of the child's interests . (a.k.a. Stage Mo m, Stage Dad, "Living Vicariously Through Their Children.") b) A parent putting a child up in front of others and whispering be liefs into the child's ear for the child to repeat. c) Tricking children into changing their clothes to participate in a repetitive "ceremony." d ) UG parents and/or "mis - educated" UG's posing as paid "therapist s ," "Guardian Ad Litem s ," "Private Guardia n Ad Litem s ," " Custody Evaluator s ," etc. who, in their "mis - education" can't individually or collectively recognize that in situations a LUV, who is a child , perceives as possibly threatening to the child if the child doesn't "conform" with th e "invisible strings" of the UG or mis - educated UGs, the LUV will placate them out of "self - preservation." This includes that if the child perceives any of those selectively mis - educated "profe ssionals" are associated with an UG parent, the child, out of "self preser vation" bias will not raise alarms about the UG in a misguided attempt to avoid further pain and suffering at the UG's hands. It's unbelievable how rampant this insidious form of Gotheling by "paid," selectively mis - educated "professionals" is. Every uni versity in the world not raising the alarm about this should be shut down and anyone engaging in this camouflaged form of child abuse should b e stripped of their credentials. "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 17 9 ) Whiplashing - Forced Repetition. Often another funnel - within - the - funnel of P uppet Mongering. When the UG has more to gain than the LUV. A Gotheling organization or Gotheling "school" might do this to LUVs for their own gain. Watch for this deception. When this is happening it is not "teaching" by a "teacher" and "learning" by a willing "student." It is something misguided, misinterpreted or exploitive. 10 ) Token Hijacking - An UG envying someone special, targeting them as a LUV, appropriating that LUV in superficial ways for their own purposes, claiming that LUV as "their own " or as "one of them" and then mongering that LUV to believe the UG is what made the LUV special. 11 ) Imaginary Testing - Similar to Bait - And - Switch , also a funnel - within - the - funnel of Scapegoating but this is t he UG retroactively claiming that somethin g that the UG visibly or invisibly did to the LUV was actually "just a test." Usually UGs do this because they got caught or questioned in something by the LUV rather than the LUV just "turning the other cheek" and going along with the UG's abuses. 12 ) Financial Control - Another funnel - within - funnels. This can happen in lots of ways by the UG mongering to control "all" or "part" of a LUV's finances. 13 ) Profiteering - Financial Mongering. A darker funnel - within - the - funnel of Financial Control "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 18 Without naming names here, a n other example of this would be UGs hijacking parts of a "noble" organization then selectively deceiving the reciprocating "noble" parts of the "organization" to monger millions of LUVs into making "volunteer donations" for the "organization" by claiming the "volunteer donations" are for " non - profit purposes " while the other reciprocating parts of the organization hijacked by the UGs then secretly use the results of those "volunteer donations" for "for - profit" purposes instead. UG's doing this under their hijacked parts of a "righteous" organization could stockpile hundreds of billions of dirty dollars in "unrighteous" ways. Remember that as a way to make themselves look innocent, the UGs would use Scapegoating and other dar k tactics to blame the public leaders of the noble parts of the organization and many people would fall for it. Remember: "Thinking is hard, that's why most people judge." 14 ) Mongering For Apathetic Pretending - Cognitive Dissonance. A darker spir al of Virtue Signaling . When an UG ignores the realities, consequences and ongoing horrors of their counterintuitive (or criminal) actions and superficially pretends as if everything is "perfect" while also mongering their LUV s to superficially pretend eve rything is perfect as well. This almost alway s contributes to more generational and/or cultural tragedies, lost years and lost lives. 15 ) Scoreboarding - I ncludes the UG ignorantly pursuing and projecti ng self - serving, ever - changing imaginary tallies or "scores" to "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 19 publicly but irrationally make themselves look better in the UG's short - sighted state - of - mind. The UG does this regardless of the UG 's lack of knowledge about other's values, plans, pains, knowledge, experience, background, goals, challenge s, intentional choices, intentional sacrifices, history etc.... Remember: " Games are won by players who keep their eyes on the playing field, not on the scoreboard." 16 ) Appropriating - The UG mongering the LUV to believe that anything the LUV might perc eive as rewarding, good or desirable is because of the UG or can be better if it's controlled by the UG R emember, in their condition, the UG isn't worthy of the LUV. The UG is an "imposter." The UG is an "imitator." The UG is a "hijacker." Re member, i t is no longer the UG toler ating the LUV as UG's would have LUVs believe. Instead, with this guide, it is the LUV tolerating the UG as the LUV introduce s this guide and "Awareness, Intervention and Accountability " to them. 17 ) Helicoptering - A part o f Gotheling that involves a person ir rationally monitoring another person of any age in visible ways with or without communicating to the person about what is concerning them. Mimicking this behavior back to the UG is a rewarding way to attempt to quickl y "humanize" this "de - humanizing" behavior and to start the conversation about this brighter light (plus it's a good excuse to pretend to be a helicopter for a while.) 18 ) Stalking - A darker , spiral of Helicoptering "We Are Pianos" by Vox Victorus 20 There are many individual or coll ective examples of this premeditated, invisible, boundary ignoring, boundary violating deception. 19 ) Stalking By Proxy - This includes an UG using other LUVs to monger or "stalk" a person for the UG regardless of verbal, behavioral, written or legal boundaries set by the LUV. This includes mongering other LUV's to leave notes on the targeted LUV's door, call the targeted LUV over - and - over again, etc... 20 ) Thunder Stealing - The UG not recognizing the merits of those who an occasion is for and the UG taking over those occasions in many different ways. ( Mongerings, Invalidating, Virtue Signaling, Projecting, Guilt Mongering, Shame Mongering, Victim Shaming, etc...) (Maybe I'll start a program certifying wedding planners in this?) In addition to wed dings this can include anything... birthdays, graduations etc... Being aware of this possibility before these occasions happen and assigning people to immediately address Thunder Stealing if it happens with the brighter light of "Awareness, Intervention and A dvocacy" can prevent rough experiences from happening and the merits of others who the occasion is for being acknowledged and celebrated instead. 21 ) Splicing - A more horrific funnel - within - the - funnel of Thunder Stealing. An UG Appropriating or Comma ndeering challenges others are faced with for the UG's own gain or purposes