Image by Free-Photos from Pixabay BECOMING SUPERHUMAN Getting Straight to the Point: Gaining Respect and Con dence ...And how to make a rejection still a success Lorenz Duremdes Polymath Jan 1 · 3 min read o the following obviously depends on the person and the culture of your country. I, for example, live in the Netherlands which is a very open and tolerated country (Gay pride is pretty normal and such). As a guy, I have noticed that getting straight to the point and being open and vulnerable with people makes them respect you a lot. Yes, even in a country that’s already pretty open toward each other. Example: Sending a Message to a Girl I Used to Like ere’s an example of me being open and vulnerable to a girl I used to like many years ago (I translated it from Dutch to English): Hey X, Lorenz here. Everything alright? I just wanted to wish you a happy Christmas and a happy New Year, and a couple more words haha. I really admire how you have such great persistence for your passion, you don’t see that very often. No, I truly believe that success is a matter of hard and smart work rather than being lucky. S H “I’ve found that what most people call luck is often little more than raw talent combined with the ability to make the most of opportunities.” — Timothy Zahn ...By slowly developing things, you create more and more opportunities to choose from. Most people tend to see this as luck when it is not. It is, instead, the creation of luck: “Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.” ― Seneca the Younger I remember I went to a short entrepreneurship course. There, I met someone who wanted to give me free personal coaching. Is this luck? Partially, but I would never have had this opportunity if I didn’t went there in the first place i.e. preparation meets opportunity. Maybe a long message, but I have a couple more words to share with you haha. I thought you were a really attractive person especially your personality and such. I just didn’t had the confidence to tell you that before. Why am I saying this “all of a sudden”? Because I see the sharing of these words nothing more than a challenge to grow my self-confidence. I believe there are not many guys out there that have this confidence to put themselves in a vulnerable position. And even if they do, they usually get angry when rejected. I, however, don’t and I see this as the ultimate form of confidence. So yeah, have a nice life! Reviewing her responses, she clearly admired and respected my words deeply. I mean, I literally didn’t message her for a year and then all of a sudden this thoughtful message. Imagine the confidence that’s required! No bullshitting around, testing the shallow waters, and slowly build things up. I get straight to the point! . . . If you liked this article, you may also like this one: Asking This Simple Question Will Make You Understand Your Hidden Motives ...And see things from di erent perspectives medium.com And remember to subscribe for more articles like this one: Subscribe See this to see why I write: https://lorenzduremdes.wordpress.com/2019/10/08/introd... mailchi.mp . . . This story is published in a Few Words, Medium’s publication that only accepts stories under 500 words. If you have a few meaningful words to say and want to be a writer in our publication, visit here. ) Some rights reserved Entrepreneurship Life Relationships Self Improvement Love Discover Medium Welcome to a place where words matter. On Medium, smart voices and original ideas take center stage - with no ads in sight. Watch Make Medium yours Follow all the topics you care about, and we’ll deliver the best stories for you to your homepage and inbox. Explore Become a member Get unlimited access to the best stories on Medium — and support writers while you’re at it. Just $5/month. Upgrade About Help Legal