U n d e r stan d in g A v oi d ant Attach m ent : T he F ea r o f D epen d ence The avoidant attachment style is characterized by emotional distance, independence, and discomfort with closeness. Individuals with this style often suppress their need for connection and rely heavily on self-sufficiency. It typically develops when caregivers are emotionally unavailable or dismissive, leading the child to believe that expressing needs will result in rejection. Over time, this fosters a deep-seated belief that depending on others is unsafe or unnecessary. Common Traits and Behaviors v Preference for solitude and self-reliance. v Difficulty expressing emotions or affection. v Discomfort with vulnerability or dependency. v Suppression of emotional needs in relationships. v Tendency to withdraw when feeling pressured or hurt. Root Causes of Avoidant Attachment v Emotionally distant or critical caregivers. v Childhood emphasis on independence over connection. v Rejection or invalidation of emotional needs. v Early experiences of being ignored or dismissed. Effects on Adult Relationships v Emotional unavailability or fear of intimacy. v Avoiding deep emotional conversations. v Viewing partners as overly needy or demanding. v Difficulty forming lasting, emotionally connected bonds. Healing and Development v Recognize and accept emotional needs without guilt. v Practice vulnerability in safe relationships. v Engage in attachment-based therapy. v Gradually build trust and emotional openness. The Personal Development School 405 Queen St S, Bolton, ON, Canada info@personaldevelopmentschool.com +1 (416) 554-2886